February is Love Month...NOT for Many

Cheryl Perlitz, inspiring life change / survival expert shares secrets on how to survive the scary, weird world of dating if you are over 50 and suddenly single.

Chicago, IL (PRWEB) January 26, 2006 -- With over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, and 8.6 deaths per 1000 people per year, many of us are finding ourselves suddenly single.

The transition from the couples to the singles world is a real culture shock for those who have been locked comfortably in a couple’s world. It’s a scary uncomfortable world, fraught with rejection, and uncertainty.

Life change and survival expert, Cheryl Perlitz had to deal with that transition. After 29 years of marriage, Cheryl lost her husband suddenly, and was forced to live the life of a single. She had to shift her thinking from ‘how to maintain intimacy in a long term marriage’, to ‘how to find someone to talk to’. Dating in a world that had moved rapidly ahead without her was a real shift in thinking.

Cheryl was a member of the early baby boomer generation. Times have surely changed:

When in the old days, sex before marriage was verboten, today sex is the determining factor of compatibility.

-In the early 60’s when a woman initiated a phone call she was considered ‘forward’ and ‘loose’, today it’s the women who often make the first move.

-When in the old days, we jumped into marriage if it felt right, today couples delay marriage until they’ve tested it out first.

-In the old days, the men paid for everything, picked you up at the door, and opened the car door, today you meet at your destination and let yourself in and out.

-It was unheard of to date someone much older or younger, today the trophy partner sounds pretty good

Finding your way in this new generation of dating is challenging and enlightening. Here are some survival tips to help you to deal with the transition from ‘coupled’ to ‘singled’.

*START WITH THE RIGHT ATTITUDE

Don’t go into dating in hot pursuit of a partner. Finding a partner only happens when you least expect it AND when you are ready.

‘A surprise drops in from out     of the blue .. literally ’ (a cute 20 second story)

*PROTECT YOURSELF and have an escape route. Be sneaky and always have a plan B

‘A homework assignment for survival’ (15 second story)

*KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES and stay in them.

‘The 100 Hour Rule’ (an important 15 second story)

*BE A LISTENER not a talker. Observe body language, and listen to what is and isn’t said.

‘How do you feel about your mom’ (20 second story)

*BEWARE OF THE LIAR. People lie to be more appealing. Try to catch them.

‘Who is the real ‘prince charming?’ (enlightening 20 second story)

*BE REAL and be yourself. Don’t try to be Barby or Ken if you’re not.

*WATCH YOUR EXPECTATIONS. The phone may not ring and the relationship may be different than it seems.

‘Saved by caller ID’ (a 15 second story).

*BE CURRENT. Things are certainly different than they used to be.

‘taking a leap into the blue’ (10 second story)

*BE LIBERATED FINANCIALLY and stand on your own.

‘standing tall and on her own’ (10 second story)    

*DON’T CARRY TOO HEAVY A LOAD. Your own baggage may just be enough.

‘being widowed … once in enough’ (10 second story)

Cheryl Perlitz is the author of the inspirational book "Soaring Through Setbacks - Rise above adversity - Reclaim your life" and the upcoming “Soaring through Setbacks….Survival Tips Handbook’ As a dynamic speaker and facilitator, her inspiring, fun and motivational stories help listeners and readers to "TRANSFORM THEIR MOUNTAINS INTO OPPORTUNITIES FOR ADVENTURE AND POSITIVE CHANGE."

Cheryl is not a therapist, or medical doctor. She does not have a PHD or an advanced degree in psychological theory. She is a regular person, like most of us. She is a sought after talk show guest because of her easy casual style, her ability to tell wonderful stories that the listeners and readers can relate to, and her understanding and compassion for others.

If you would like to hear more about this topic, and/or more detailed SURVIVAL TIPS for surviving the holidays contact Cheryl Perlitz: cheryl@SoarWithMe.com

To book an interview call:

cell 847-609-8032

Cheryl is available for last minute interviews

CHERYL PERLITZ

Soar With Me

131 Rutgers Court

Glenview, IL 60026

# # #