Is Everyone Open To Love?

It is amazing millions of people think that they are open to love and yet when it comes to the crunch some people are not really open to love, according to relationship advice writer Joshua Danicio.

Cary, NC (PRWEB) October 5, 2006 -- Some people think that they are open to love until they discover via experience that romantic love is quite elusive in their life and slips through just when things are going great.

Unfortunately, some people either sabotage their existing love relationships or are not completely open to having fulfilling new relationships, according to Joshua Danicio, a contributing writer / editor at CupidClinic.com.

This may come as a shocking truth just when there are more and more people becoming lonely, depressed and not connected socially with other people in this technologically advanced world. The reasons he quotes why people may not be open to love are as follows:

1) Painful Past Experiences -- Some People want love but don't want to be open to it because of their past painful experiences associated with having a loving relationship. Their perception of "past equals future" drives them away from having new loving relationships.

2) Lose of Independence -- On some level people believe that opening the door to love means loss of their own independence because of possible influences from their future love.

3) Lack Of Time -- Some people may believe that their times throughout the day have to be shared with another person and they might be required to communicate with the other person on a regular basis even if they don't feel like it. Or simply they just don't have the time to have a new relationship or love.

4) Fear Of Commitment -- People think that by committing to the romantic love from one person they might be committed to that person for life and it might appear final for their decision on their lover for life.

5) Busy Lifestyle -- People's lifestyle whether it is existing work related, habit related or friendship network related may not lend itself to a new person coming into their life. They think that by letting love into their life they have to change their lifestyle dramatically which they might regret later on, so they decide not to be open to love

6) Financial Reasons -- They believe that by having new love into their life, they might be required to spend money on their new love in terms of gifts or other activities which may cost money. Their perception maybe that new love may interfere with their work and time, which they think can be spent on making their finances better

7) Their Need To Remain Who They Are -- Some people shy from change. They want to remain true to who they are. They don't want to change their habits for anyone, especially if their habits and values are making them happy as a person. They think that by letting love into their life, the other person may make them change who they are.

8) Fear Of Intimacy -- Some people have an inherent fear of getting closer to someone emotionally or even physically at intimate moments. They are afraid of being intimate with another person in a romantic way and that fear itself prevents them from being open to love.

9) Lack of Self Esteem -- People's sense of personal worth or self-esteem will have a dramatic impact on how sociable they are and how they behave in social situations with other people whether it is with the member of the same sex or the opposite sex. Lower the self-esteem lower the chances of being "open to love". On some level, people's self worth and perception of what / whom they deserve prevents people from being open to new and exciting love coming into their life

10) Perfectionist Mentality -- People often wait for that perfect romantic love. They can be close-minded and ignore anyone who may seem imperfect in their eyes in the beginning. They are closed to a potential partner who might turn into a perfect life partner.

In summary, Joshua says "Since everyone is unique with varying cultural, family expectations, belief systems, value systems and other social conditioning, they need to explore each of the above factors from their own unique individual point view and think through why they are not open to love". To help, CupidClinic.com has countless articles relating to dating, love and relationship advice. They pride themselves as a place "Where Cupid Comes To Learn About Love" with their mission to be the premier destination for free love and relationship advice, where suggestions from talented authors are featured to enlighten users with questions on dating, marriage, divorce and even wedding related issues to find solutions.

For more information visit CupidClinic.com

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