Tips for Seniors on Searching for a Sweetheart the Second Time Around?

Love is not just for twentysomethings, nor is it impossible to find love a second, or even third time around. But dating has changed from the days of lemonade and the porch swing. Here are some tips to get back into the swing of things.

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Tips for Seniors on
Searching for a Sweetheart the Second Time Around?

DATELINE: ISSUED 9/23/02...
Love is not just for twentysomethings, nor is it impossible to find love a second, or even third time around. But dating has changed from the days of lemonade and the porch swing. Here are some tips to get back into the swing of things.

Forget the Dating Rules"
Dating the second time around after a being in a long-term relationship, can be one of the most challenging parts of life, for some its even more challenging than a career change. Because of the closeness and familiarity that is established in a long-term relationship, its sometimes difficult to remember to begin a new relationship at the beginning, simply getting to know each other and moving it along slowly. It can be done. There is just one rule to remember...unlike times past, there are no set dating rules," says Paul Falzone, CEO of the worlds largest dating service, The Right One and Together with over 80 locations throughout the United States.

Getting back into circulation is never easy for those looking for love after years of a long term relationship. Once removed from the dating pool, it can be very difficult to get back into the swing of things.

For those about to take the plunge back into the single" world and begin dating again, the following tips should help serve as a guide:

On Equal Footing
Nowadays, equality is one of the main components of dating. Unlike fifteen to twenty years ago, men are not obligated" to pay for the entire bill or the entire date. Both people should be prepared to pay during the date. Who shall pay has become a joint decision, often times each paying their own way. And remember, either party may suggest the next date or telephone call.

Comfort Plays a Key Role
In lieu of the former rules" of dating, comfort level is now the key ingredient that cues couples to the next step in a relationship, which could mean deciding to date someone exclusively or becoming sexually intimate. For folks rejoining the dating scene, that comfort level should guide how a relationship will progress and each should be upfront about expressing whether or not they are ready to move ahead.

As many of us grow older, opportunities to meet new people become fewer and far between, but people need and look for companionship. Regardless of whether the friendship is platonic or romantic, its good to have someone in your corner whom you can trust and share both the good and not so good times. You need to be comfortable with a potential companion, so let your comfort level guide you," notes Falzone.

No Games
There are no rules to dating, and there shouldnt be any games either. People should not put on airs or pretend to be other than they are to try in an attempt to be liked or admired. Either the compatibility is there and two people like each other, or not. There no sense in wasting your own or someone elses time. Be upfront. If you cant share who you are, then how can you spend quality" time with another person? Be yourself from the start.

Leave the Past in the Past
Whether you are a widow or widower or if youve gone through a difficult divorce, it is easy to slip into thinking about people and events of the past, and worse yet, comparing them to the present. But it must not be done. When you begin dating again, try to remember that every person is a unique individual and look upon each date as a new and fresh experience. Dont compare your date to those you have dated or had relationships with in the past. Leave it in the past.

Enjoy the Moment
Dont stress out about finding a relationship before a certain age or because you have reached a certain age. People need to learn from and enjoy each stage of life. As we grow older, its easy to get set in ways and routines, but you should allow yourself to make some room in your life for new experiences and people. When you do begin dating again, let nature set its course, relax and enjoy the moment. Learn how to recognize the signs of compatibility. Pay attention to your feelings. Is your heart beating faster? Do you find yourself at ease when youre together?

With a successful history of many thousands of relationships and numerous marriages to its credit, The Right One and Together Dating have refined the art of matchmaking.

According to Falzone, As relationship experts, we eliminate the 'footwork for people. Instead of dating someone over a period of months or years and then finding out youre simply not really compatible, we find out ahead of time for you. We take care of the interviews and gauge compatibility and suitability for our clients, essentially cutting down on the enormous amount of time that it usually takes to find that special someone, The Right One."

ROMANTIC LOCATIONS
The Right One has offices and affiliates located throughout the United States, including: California (San Diego); Colorado (Colorado Springs, Denver); Florida (Tampa); Georgia (Atlanta); Hawaii (Honolulu); Illinois (Chicago, Springfield, Peoria, Rockford; Downers Grove and Bloomington); Iowa (Des Moines, Cedar Rapids and Bettendorf); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Hampshire (Bedford); New Jersey (Cherry Hill, Hackensack); Massachusetts (Hingham, Chestnut Hill, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Pennsylvania (Philadelphia, Pittsburgh and Monroeville); Rhode Island (Warwick); Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton and Milwaukee); Texas (Dallas, Austin).

North American locations and affiliates of Together are: California (Encino, Irvine and Los Angeles); Florida (Palm Beach); Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Indianapolis, South Bend); Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City); Louisiana (New Orleans); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Minneapolis); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); New Jersey (Bridgewater, Clark, Colts Neck and Lawrenceville); Ohio (Cincinnati); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg and Doylestown); South Carolina (Greenville); South Dakota (Sioux Falls); Texas (Dallas, San Antonio, Beaumont and Houston) and Virginia (Falls Church).

For more information about The Right One and Together, please call 1 (800) 818-DATE, or visit www.therightone.com and www.therightone.com.

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