First Date Jitters? Worlds Largest Dating Service Advises What NOT to Reveal

Just the thought of a first date unnerves many - to the point of "sharing" too much info too soon. When it comes to affairs of the heart, author of a recent book on romance and the CEO of the world's largest dating service, Paul A. Falzone can provide additional insight regarding what should NOT be revealed on the first date.

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First Date Jitters?
Worlds Largest Dating Service Advises What NOT to Reveal

DATELINE: HINGHAM, MA; SEPTEMBER 5, 2003...
Its been a few months and youve gotten over that relationship gone awry. Youve just confirmed a first date with someone and now youre experiencing first date jitters."

According to Paul Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating Service, Its never easy to get back into the dating game, especially after coming out of a serious relationship. Its only natural to be very nervous about a first date. Try to relax, remain positive and dont share too much information too soon."

Here are a few things that should NOT be revealed on the first date:

Youre playing the field, and enjoying it. Good for you if you are putting yourself out in the dating scene and having a great time. But keep it to yourself -- no one wants to feel like a number.

Your ex and their faults. This is probably the biggest second-date killer. First of all, your date doesnt want to hear about people or problems from the past. Second, negativity just isnt attractive.

Your phobias. Keep your phobias to yourself on the first date. It cant possibly make you feel better to voice your fears to a stranger. Whether youre afraid of heights, large dogs or of picking up the tab, stay away from fear factors.

Youre on the fast track to the chapel. Desiring a long-term commitment is admirable. But its impossible to know whether or not a person is right for you on the first date. You should wait until youve shared more time together (the fourth date or later) before expressing your need for commitment, the M" word and children.

Dissatisfaction with your job. So, you hate your job. Again, avoid the negativity. Its not going to help the relationship area of your life to whine about the bad hand" you were dealt in your career.

Problems with parents or children. A first date is not the time to air the skeletons in the closet. So your parents (or your kids) drive you crazy and are determined to send you over the edge". Conflicts with families are a natural part of life -- theres no need to share the burden early on.

Your wealth (or lack of it). Youre the only one of your colleagues who hasnt suffered the burn of the stock market. Youre making six figures and can have anything and go anywhere you want. Or on the flip side, youre barely scraping by, living hand-to-mouth and you used your laundry money to cover the cab fare for your date. Either way, talking about money can make your date feel anxious.

Sexual expectations. No need to discuss sexual intimacy on the first date. Even though you may be comfortable in openly discussing these matters, your date may not be. Take it slow and let the subject evolve over time (or at least wait until the second date).

Topics that should be explored include your interests, politics, recent vacations or events youve enjoyed, movies, music, food, pets, books and so on. Theres a variety of safe" topics to discuss, essentially guaranteeing a positive first date. And a call for a second one.

If you can be yourself, and be confident in who you are, a second date --and love will eventually come knocking on your door," noted Falzone.

The merger of The Right One with national franchises of Together created the world's largest introduction service with over 80 locations. The alliance is a marriage of convenience for customers -- offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and more flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

Today, with an ambitious plan to open between 12-24 new offices a year, Together and The Right One have more than 125,000 members -- many of whom have their memberships on hold while they take the time to explore a successful relationship. With more than 500 employees, Together and The Right One gross more than $45-million a year in revenue.

ROMANTIC LOCATIONS
The Right One has offices and affiliates located throughout the United States, including: California (San Diego); Colorado (Colorado Springs, Denver); Florida (Boca, Tampa); Georgia (Atlanta); Hawaii (Honolulu); Illinois (Chicago, Springfield, Peoria, Rockford; Downers Grove and Bloomington); Iowa (Des Moines, Cedar Rapids and Bettendorf); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Hampshire (Bedford); New Jersey (Cherry Hill, Hackensack); Massachusetts (Hingham, Chestnut Hill, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Pennsylvania (Philadelphia, Pittsburgh and Monroeville); Rhode Island (Warwick); Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton and Milwaukee); Texas (Dallas, Austin).

North American locations and affiliates of Together are: California (Encino, Irvine and Los Angeles); Florida (Palm Beach); Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Indianapolis, South Bend); Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City); Louisiana (New Orleans); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Minneapolis); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); New Jersey (Bridgewater, Clark, Colts Neck and Lawrenceville); Ohio (Cincinnati); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg and Doylestown); South Carolina (Greenville); South Dakota (Sioux Falls); Texas (Dallas, San Antonio, Beaumont and Houston) and Virginia (Falls Church).

For more information about The Right One and Together Dating, please visit their websites at www.therightone.com and www.togetherdating.com, or call
(800) 348-DATE (3283).

(Editor note: For interviews with the colorful and articulate Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together and author of a recent book on the history of dating, please contact Steve Dubin, PR Works, at (781) 878-9533 or, by e-mail, at sdubin@prworkzone.com)