Ask Dr. Forté

Ask Dr. Forté

Lamenting a lost love? Languishing in a lackluster love affair? About to bury your heart in the landfill of love? Not so fast!!! Trade emotion for reason, feeling for wisdom. Believe it or not, love really does make sense.

Did you know...
•   that loves greatest enemy is expectation?
•   that learning loves vocabulary can help you avoid scaring off" a potential lover?
•   that too many relationships are ruined because being right becomes more important than being loved?
•   that two cant and never will become one in a love relationship, and
•   that love is what we want most and it is what we know the least about?

Q: What is relationship martyrdom?
A: It occurs when a love connection is broken and the spurned lover seeks to be recognized as a kind of hero, someone who can endure pain unlike anyone else. In actuality, its that persons coping mechanism and those they share the pain with are the real heroes. They have to listen to all the gory details!
Q: How can we learn to be better lovers?
A: First, take time to learn about yourself. Who are you? What do you want your future to be like? What things are required for you to live a happy life? What can you do without and still be happy? What are your weaknesses? Strengths? What truths are you living by? What untruths are you hiding? Self-examination is the key because it allows you the opportunity to explore what baggage" you bring to the relationship.

Q: Why are women so attracted to so-called bad boys"?
A: Some of the reasons are fairly obvious. They are usually very physically attractive and emotionally savvy. They know that to say and who and when to say it because theyre experts at the game of love. The less obvious reason is that women love a project. In the case of this heartbreaker, they mistakenly believe they can change him. He often supports the idea by admitting he has flaws and doesnt deserve a woman like her. She in turn falls into the trap hes set by showing what a women she truly is to put up with a man like him. She becomes the victim of his game. Bad boys are exciting but often dangerous.

Q: Why do lovers play games? Why cant they just be honest?
A: Many lovers are honest However, remember that attraction and courtship are, by their nature, games. Theres mystery, intrigue, adrenalins pumping, hearts are racing -- all because of the prospect of lifes greatest prize, love. It how you play that game that determines how happy or disappointed youll be.

Q: How do I learn the game of love?
A: At this time in history, there is no better opportunity to do so. Your source is the wisdom of the ages. Love has been studied, analyzed, talked about, acted out, worshipped and feared longer than any other subject. Through the Internet, libraries, theatre, music, film, psychology, philosophy, personnel experience, religion and the like, you have access to the collective wisdom of those who can make you an expert in loves lessons.

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About Dr. Cecile Forte...Dr. Cecile Forte is a professional member of the National Speakers Association. Dr. Forte received her doctorate from Hofstra University. She has gained national prominence through television appearances, and her keynote/featured speaker presentations and seminar sessions take her to conferences and media events across the country. A motivational speaker specializing in relationships and performance/productivity enhancement, Dr. Forte is a corporate consultant and author of six books including Wise Woman Dont Have Hot Flashes They Have Power Surges!, A Womans Wisdom and Stolen Love under her pseudonym, D. Reid Wallace. Send inquires to Ys Woman, Inc, 1078 Route 112, Suite 179, Port Jefferson Station, New York 11777.

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