Pop Tarts and Broken Hearts: For Love-Savvy Young Women, Life Is Both Sweet and Bittersweet - By Josie Brown and Martin Brown

As far as Pop Tarts are concerned, Carrie Bradshaw hung up her Manolo Blahniks just in the nick of time. This nickname, which describes the trend-setting love-savvy single woman under the age of thirty-four, is apt: she can be sweet and sharp at the same time. And while, at first glance, her demeanor may strike you as hard, the more you get to know her, the sooner youll discover her softer side. Despite her youth, the Pop Tart is a heart-scarred veteran of the War Between the Sexes, having endured her share of achy-breaky hearts. However, unlike her older sisters, the QuirkyAlones, she hasnt yet written off the opposite sex altogether: she anticipates dating a number of Mr. Right Nows before locking in on her Mr. Right. In that way, she discerns what she will -- and wont -- put up with in the name of love...

(PRWEB) April 2, 2004 --
Pop Tarts and Broken Hearts: For Love-Savvy Young Women, Life Is Both Sweet and Bittersweet
By Josie Brown and Martin Brown

As far as Pop Tarts are concerned, Carrie Bradshaw hung up her Manolo Blahniks just in the nick of time.

This nickname, which describes the trend-setting love-savvy single woman under the age of thirty-four, is apt: she can be sweet and sharp at the same time. And while, at first glance, her demeanor may strike you as hard, the more you get to know her, the sooner youll discover her softer side.

Edgy independence is her hallmark. In the office, shes a player: she knows her stuff, but is not afraid to bend the rules to get the required results. And she doesnt follow trends, but sets them. The reputation of any new nightspot is made when she makes it her hangout. To stay ahead of the pack, fashion designers spies snoop around her haunts -- LAs Melrose Avenue, San Franciscos Mission District, the Kitsilano area of Vancouver, or New Yorks Chelsea and SOHO districts -- taking their copious notes on how she mixes and matches her attire depending on her mood or whim.

When it comes to alter egos, the Pop Tart isnt seeking a role model. She already has one whose taste and judgment she trusts: herself.

The first guy she had wrapped around her little finger was Daddy, and he wont be her last. Shes always been comfortable with both her sense of self and her sensuality -- neither of which she minds using to her advantage, at work or at play. Shes honed her skills as a PUA (pick-up artist) to the extent that she even fools her potential paramour into thinking that he made the first move.

Despite her youth, the Pop Tart is a heart-scarred veteran of the War Between the Sexes, having endured her share of achy-breaky hearts. However, unlike her older sisters, the QuirkyAlones, she hasnt yet written off the opposite sex altogether: she anticipates dating a number of Mr. Right Nows before locking in on her Mr. Right. In that way, she discerns what she will -- and wont -- put up with in the name of love.

Will he recognize her as well? Smart guys see her coming, and snap her up before facing their forties as lonely guys. For those who arent so sure, here are a few clues:

1.Shes competitive in all arenas. Dont expert her to fake being clumsy at sports, or to feel bad if her salary is higher than yours. Just get over it, and youll get along.

2. Shes not into guys for their money, their looks, or their prestige. What she wants is honesty, sincerity and a strong sense of self. All the rest of that stuff, well, thats just icing on well-shaped buns.

3. She wants a man, not a little boy. Shes not looking to be your babysitter or your surrogate mother. However, Sensitive Guys are encouraged to apply.

4. She already has a strong support system in place, but there is always room for one more: you. She has her own posse of great gal friends. Accept them, and theyll be your biggest fans.

5. If she doesnt respond at first, hang in there. Because shes been burned in the past, she put you through several tests of trust. It will be worth the wait, and shell appreciate your perseverance.

6. She'll remind you of these celebrities: singers Beyonce Knowles and Avril Lavigne, actresses Christina Ricci and Jennifer Garner, and The Apprentices Amy Henry.

© 2004 Josie Brown and Martin Brown/Relationship NewsWire. First serial rights reserved. Josie Brown and Martin Brown are the authors of Marriage Confidential: 102 Honest Answers to the Questions Every Husband Wants to Ask, and Every Wife Needs to Know [Signal Press. They are also the co-founders of the Relationship Newswire, and editors of John Gray's Mars Venus Advice syndicated column.

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