Charleston, SC (PRWEB) August 5, 2004
ChildrenÂs feelings are often silenced after a parent passes away. As a result, children may carry feelings of anger, guilt, or loneliness with them into adulthood. Left unresolved, these emotions can negatively impact every aspect of their lives. But it doesnÂt have to be like this.
ÂGrief is an on-going journey,Â says Phyllis Glowatsky, author of "The Light of Stars." ÂWhile it never really ends, there are things you can do to help children cope more effectively with the loss.Â
With over 20 years of experience, Phyllis has helped hundreds of people learn how to
effectively deal with issues related to loss, abuse, neglect and marital problems. She holds a masters degree in social work and, as a therapist, worked extensively with children and
families. Helping children with the grieving process is especially dear to her heart, because
her own father died when she was two years old. While there are no right or wrong rules for grieving, Phyllis shares five helpful things you can do to help a child deal with their feelings:
1. Tell the child about the death in a straightforward way. Use the words ÂdeathÂ and
ÂdeadÂ, explaining for younger children that the body has stopped working.
2. Be present and listen. Reassure children they are loved and not to blame. Let the
child express feelings.
3. Answer questions directly and honestly. ItÂs okay to say you donÂt know.
4. Invite the child to participate in the mourning process, funeral /memorial service,
viewing of the body. Discuss in detail what the child can expect.
5. Provide continuity and consistency. Upholding family rules and routines gives a
sense of safety and security.
ÂAbove all, be patient,Â says Phyllis. ÂChildren often grieve differently than adults and need time to work through the complex range of emotions that accompany the grieving process.Â
Get the FREE special report Â7 Ways to Provide Support in a Time of GriefÂ at
Phyllis Glowatsky or
The Light of Stars; Coastal Publishing, Inc.; 2003; ISBN: 1-931650-18-7; $19.95; http://www.LightofStars.com
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