(PRWEB) August 19, 2004
ÂDonÂt overlook even the first lie from a partner,Â she says. ÂIf you suspect any lie or embellishment about his background or family connections, there are other lies that may be far worse.Â To cover up a perceived embarrassment, a pathological liar will cleverly construct a web of untruths, each compounding the other, she says. Friedell is convinced that Lori Hacking and Laci Peterson, young wives who became murder victims, each overlooked warning signs that could have saved their lives.
ÂWomen are conditioned to try to make their relationships work, although there are often compelling reasons to call it quits.Â They donÂt want their friends and family to know theyÂre in failing relationships, she said. ÂThis is classic in any abuse cycle, where a woman believes she can ÂfixÂ the abuser and make the marriage a good one.Â
In Bitter Persimmons, Friedell tells her own story of falling for men whose life stories were total fabrications. She asked lots of questions and finally uncovered the truth, but not until she had already taken marriage vows. Being committed to her relationships, she continued to accept excuses until reality forced her to move on. She considers herself lucky.
ÂOur own instincts are our most valuable tool for determining the truth about a situation. Take time to listen, and believe in yourself and donÂt make excuses for others. Your own life may be at stake,Â Friedell says.
More information can be found on FriedellÂs website, http://www.asfriedell.com. Bitter Persimmons: An Unlikely Story (ISBN 0975376055, Biblio, $14.95) is available at bookstores and online.
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