New Years Resolutions for Wives with Cheating Husbands

New Years Resolutions to help wives with cheating husbands make the best of a bad situation and minimize the damage infidelity can cause.

(PRWEB) January 3, 2005 -- An estimated 38 to 53 million women are victims of infidelity. Most wives with cheating husbands simply suffer in silence or tolerate their husbands infidelity because they feel they have no other alternatives, or dont know what else to do.

You dont have to sit back and be a helpless victim," says Ruth Houston, infidelity expert and author of Is He Cheating on You? -- 829 Telltale Signs. There are things you can do to make the best of a bad situation and minimize the damage infidelity can cause."

Houston explains, There are steps you can take to protect yourself emotionally, sexually, legally and financially. You can work quietly behind the scenes to offset some of the negative consequences that result from infidelity."

Start the new year by taking control of the situation," advises Houston. Whether you stay with your husband or leave him, these New Years Resolutions will help you gain the upper hand."

Make sure infidelity is the problem youre dealing with.    
Problems like drug or alcohol addiction or gambling often masquerade as infidelity because of similar telltale signs. Dont speculate, investigate. If you need to get solid proof of infidelity without spending a lot of time or money, a book with detailed information on the telltale signs of infidelity will help you find out for sure.

Face reality.
Ignoring your husbands infidelity will not make it go away. It will only make things worse. He could become so attached to his mistress that it will be impossible to get your marriage back on track.

Speak up and take a stand.
If you know hes cheating and say nothing about it, you're enabling his infidelity. Make it clear that you disapprove of what's going on and tell him you want it to stop. Not addressing his infidelity makes him think he has your silent approval or that you dont know whats going on.

Let him know you know.
Affairs thrive in secrecy. If youve identified numerous telltale signs and have solid proof of your husbands infidelity, decide when and how to tell him you know about his affair. Sometimes just knowing his infidelity has been exposed will be enough to make him stop.

Build a support team.
You need someone to confide in about your husbands infidelity. Dont try to get through this alone. Surround yourself with people who care about you and have your best interests at heart.

Realistically evaluate your situation.
Consider your options. Is your marriage worth saving? Should you get a temporary separation? File for divorce? What is it in your (and your childrens) best interest to do?

Seek counseling for yourself and for your marriage.
You have a better chance of saving your marriage if you get professional help. Youll be better equipped to deal with the trauma of infidelity if you seek individual counseling, as well.

Identify the underlying issues.
Try to pinpoint the contributing factors to his infidelity - A life crisis? Major character flaws? Sexual addiction? Dissatisfaction with you or with the marriage? Or something else? Get to the root of the problem, if you can.

Protect yourself sexually.
Your husbands infidelity can have life-threatening consequences for you. If hes cheating, your health is at risk. Youre already a victim of infidelity. Dont become a victim of HIV/AIDS too.

Find out your legal rights.
Consult an attorney who specializes in matrimonial law. Get a clear understanding of what you're legally entitled to (alimony, child support, division of marital assets) in the event of a divorce or separation.

Put your financial house in order.
Get a realistic view of your current financial situation and make the necessary adjustments. Establish credit in your own name. Set up a separate checking or savings account. Start putting money aside for a rainy day.

Make sure youre equipped to earn a living.
Many women remain in adulterous relationships because theyre financially dependant on their husbands. If you need to, take college courses or start learning a trade to make yourself employable.

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally.
Accept the possibility that your marriage may end. Dont be caught off guard. Have an Infidelity Game Plan" in place in case your husband decides to move out or ask for a divorce. Begin formulating your strategy now.

Make 2005 the year you break free of the bonds of infidelity. Focus your energy and efforts on the positive things you can do to make the best of a bad situation. Empower yourself by acting on these New Years resolutions and youll gain the upper hand.

About the Author
Ruth Houston is the author of Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs. For more information on infidelity or cheating husbands, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com To sign up for the FREE Infidelity Newsletter, or receive a FREE Infidelity report entitled 5 Things You Shouldnt Do If Hes Cheating on You", send an e-mail to: InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com (InfidelityAdvice at gmail.com) with "Infidelity Newsletter" or "5 Things" in the subject line.

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