(PRWEB) April 30, 2005
Carolina Fernandez, author of the parenting best-seller, "Rocket Mom!" Seven Strategies To Blast You Into Brilliance will be serving as a panelist for the pre-Mother's Day Event: ÂWhat do I want to be now that the kids are growing up?Â Lively discussion addressing various options available for highly educated, highly successful moms in the suburban New York City area (Westchester and Fairfield Counties)will provide the venue.
Controversy about motherhood is nothing new. Thousands of books, articles and commentaries have been written about our dilemmas ad nauseam. As if forty-and fifty something moms havenÂt wrestled long enough with their career-parenting decisions, young moms get additional fuel for their fires with glaring mainstream media headlinesÂjust in time for MotherÂs Day. Throw in a new poll or twoÂas well as more advice and analysis by traditional parenting ÂexpertsÂÂM.D.Âs and Ph.D.ÂsÂand you have more psychobabble than the baby-burble running down these sleep-deprived mommyÂs sleeves!
Articles like the New York Times ÂThe Opt-Out RevolutionÂ; best-sellers like Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety; and critics calling motherhood everything from a ÂtrapÂ to a ÂcultÂ to a ÂmythÂ to a "mess," turn notions about our role upside down and leave moms everywhere confused and conflicted.
Â Author/journalist Judith Warner of Perfect Madness fame claims that: Âa substantial number of GenX moms (are) too focused on perfection, too focused on their children, too competitive with one another, and that itÂs driving all moms crazy and providing their kids with no benefits.Â She asserts that thereÂs an Âoppressive culture of Âtotal motherhoodÂ that Âleaves no room for mothersÂ own interestsÂ with ÂsuffocationÂ the direct result.
Â Sumru Erkut of the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College, asserts that: societal expectations for moms have been Âracheted up by professional moms whoÂve Âupgraded motherhood to a bigger job than it used to beÂÂ and views these moms as having Âmisplaced vigor.Â
Â New York Times book critic Judith Shulevitz, commenting on Warner (who said that motherhood has gone from ÂartÂ to ÂcultÂ) calls the job a ÂmessÂ and motherhood a Âtrap powered by fear of a loss of face.Â
Hold onto your pantyhose. These journalists didnÂt finish their homework. "Rocket Mom!" author Fernandez examined the evidence and boldly challenges their assertions:
Â A brand new poll (April 25) by ClubMom reveals that 63% of moms admit to feeling no pressure to live up to a Âsociety-driven version of the Âperfect mom.ÂÂ
Â 51% of those GenXerÂs theyÂre talking about have traded super careers for motherhood because when they viewed the trade-offs required to ÂgunÂ their own careers (and through direct observation of their own working moms), they decided that the sacrifices required just werenÂt worth it.
Â 79% of moms overall rate their own sense of well-being an ÂAÂ or ÂBÂ; 84% believe they are able to keep their minds sharp and active; and 76% rate their overall health (mental and physical) as high.
Â In stark contrast to the ÂtrapÂ or ÂmessÂ that these experts call motherhood, polls find that only 10% of working moms would choose to work full-time if money were no object.
Â Of Harvard Business SchoolÂs women graduates of Â81, Â85, and Â91Âwomen currently in the fortysomething crowdÂonly 38% are working full-time.
Â 26% of women at the cusp of the most senior levels of management do not want that next promotion, choosing more time at home with family over career advancement.
The job is huge, it is vitally important, and those of us on the frontlines know it. Moms at home raising children today are there because we view our job as the most important one ever invented. Fernandez coined the phrase ÂRocket MomÂ in an effort to Âput motherhood with excellence back on the map.Â Immediately after every media interview, emails pour in from moms acknowledging not only the depth and breadth of the job; they affirm appreciation for her fresh, bold voice which upholds with unapologetic optimism the distinct role we mothers play in shaping human destiny. If thatÂs called Âover parentingÂ or a ÂmythÂ or a ÂcultÂ or a ÂtrapÂ or a Âmess,Â than somebody better wake up and flip the pancakes. Fernandez will use this panel opportunity to help New York moms celebrate motherhood. Just in time for May 8th.
Join Fernandez on Tuesday, May 3, 7-9 PM at St. StephenÂs Church, Rector Hall, 351 Main St., Ridgefield, CT 06877. Carolina Fernandez is available for media interviews by arrangement. "Rocket Mom!" Has already been featured on: Fox NewsÂ ÂYour World with Neil CavutoÂ and dozens of radio stations across the U.S.
To schedule an interview with Carolina Fernandez, please call 203.942.8282 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org. Online press kit: http://www.rocketmom.com.
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