Norfolk, Virginia (PRWEB) May 25, 2005
It all begins with a story. Life stories are eagerly told to willing ears. Stories about Âthis great, once-in-a-lifetime opportunityÂ that presented itself long ago are fluently described. Then, an explanation follows as to why that opportunity was not acted upon. Or, more often than not, an explanation as to why it just wasnÂt meant to be, despite all reasonable efforts, is given. The story may even be embellished (just a little bit) so that the listener knows that outside forces conspired to ensure defeat.
ÂIt was bad luck.Â ÂPure jealously.Â ÂNo matter the preparation, there was just no way around it.Â
The blame lies with everyone but the storyteller. Often left unsaid though, are self-doubts and regrets. The listener is usually not privy to the ÂI could havesÂ or ÂI should haves.Â People often look back into the past and wonder about what could have been. ItÂs just a matter of what an individual does with these thoughts.
July 16, 2005, is a day to toss away all the Âcould havesÂ and Âshould haves.Â Toss Away the ÂCould HavesÂ and ÂShould HavesÂ Day, created by author and motivational speaker Martha J. Ross-Rodgers (http://www.jirehpublishers.com), is recognized by ChaseÂs Calendar of Events. It is a day that encourages individuals of all backgrounds to move forward in life instead of wallowing in the past. Toss Away the ÂCould HavesÂ and ÂShould HavesÂ Day is dedicated to reminding people to learn from their mistakesÂ then let them go.
Martha J. Ross-Rodgers offers six tips for tossing away oneÂs Âcould havesÂ and Âshould haves.Â
1. Remember that the past is just the past. The past cannot be changed, but the present can be. Valley experiences are common to everyone. Make a decision today whether to remain in the valley or climb up to the mountaintop.
2. Recognize that loving oneself is to accept both the positive and negative. To err is human.
3. View every regret as an opportunity to learn and to grow. By growing, one is better equipped to handle future challenges that come along.
4. Remember-- holding on to past regrets will affect oneÂs success in the present and the future.
5. Remember: Obstacles come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Everything a person attempts is not going to be achieved easily. Living life is just a matter of finding your way past these obstacles and moving on.
6. Know that life is like a winding road. There are twists and turns along the way. Know and accept this. Then, choose to keep moving forward.
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