The Single Pop Scores: Single Dads May Emerge As Top Candidates to be Top Dates

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Despite some dented, heavy baggage, if youÂ?re a Single Dad whoÂ?s hung in, and your heart is still on your feet, you may have five of the top indicators of relationship strengths, according to Ask Mary; she knows.

Ask Mary, better know to her fans as Sassy Sadie, has received hundreds of letters over the years from her Single Dad Fans such as “Mary, I’m a single dad with joint custody of our three kids and am still wrangling with my ex. How can I expect an intelligent, attractive woman to want to get mixed up in this mess?”

Most of us tend to judge our lives by one singular result: absolute “success.” Not only is that approach self-defeating, it’s a foul lie. Sure, an unqualified “success” is terrific. But first, our lives are “on-becoming.” We’re all a work in progress, with mountains and caverns. So, as the old song goes, it’s a matter of “accentuating the positive.” For, you are the new, often unrecognized, subgroup of daters, with your very own subset of issues – and yes, special virtues.

Mary on Communication: If you’ve survived past the wedding night, you’ve had to learn to listen, express yourself, let out your feelings and make hard decisions about your family. Women want to hear and be heard.    

Mary on Flexibility: Could there be a more perfect word to describe a dad? Adjusting is what you do as a parent. It’s your problem-solving primer the moment they’re born. Women desire flexibility in their dates and their mates.

Mary on Closeness: Even if your ex called you “distant,” you probably beat out most of your mature single brothers, merely by having “been there.” History tells women you “get it” (or want it). You’re willing to risk commitment and may be in the market for a deeper, more mature love.

Mary on Compatibility: By now, even if you’re not sure what you want, you’re very sure of what you don’t want in a partner, even if her eyes and lips are like Faberge eggs. As compatibility scores high on relationship happiness, you’re in prime mode to Windex those rose-colored glasses and seek out a female who shares your love.

Mary on Conflict: This is one subject on which you’re an expert. A family man (and woman) is mired in it. You’ve fought the good and the bad fight, bear the bruises and stayed. Your higher tolerance for fair conflict – and deep appreciation for a female who shares your sensibility makes you a trooper with woman.

Mary.com offers numerous services to single parents including professional relationship articles and advice, private coaching by Ask Mary, personality and lifestyle assessments in preparation in Finding The One. To read more Ask Mary wisdom, visit us at http://www.mary.com/askmary/columns.html.

The Voice of Mary: Marnie Macauley

She’s done it all. And now she’ll be “doing it all” – on Mary.com -- and for you. The newspaper advice maven who's hosted a radio show; written 20 books, starred in a Discovery Pilot; wrote "As the World Turns"; ran a prison; and has an MS in Social Work from Columbia University has come by her earthy, common sense, often hysterical 'tude the old-fashioned way: By doing it all! No blah blah psychobabble talking head with Marnie who values "advice" over "therapy." With her witty, no preaching, straight-shooting style, expect the unexpected with our maven who's can think on her feet -- or in front of a camera. And she won't hesitate to tell you, or your audience. The results? Common sense and entertainment.

Marnie is available for TV appearances and interviews an expert in advice and relationships. As she says, "Talk to me!"

About Mary.com

Mary.com educates members about relationship building through compatibility testing and private coaching. Mary.com's approach is to enable members to take initiative when pursuing a relationship through our numerous tools to maintain a safe and secure environment including background checks, certified photos, phone chat and call blocking, private email, and instant messaging. It is also the first dating web site to provide members with an easy way to change its compatibility algorithm without having to retake quizzes or rewrite profiles.

For more information, visit http://www.mary.com or contact Joe Hertzbach 480.704.4533 or pr@itallworks.com.

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