Sedona, AZ (PRWEB) June 9, 2005
Did you know that untreated hearing loss is a rising statistic in divorce? That there are more than 28,000,000 Americans with hearing loss, with only 20% seeking help? That 80% of those who are hard of hearing donÂt seek hearing aids or any other treatment? That issues surrounding hearing loss are a major contributor toward family friction and unhappiness?
Studies show that hard-of-hearing people who were fitted with hearing aids experienced a 36 percent reduction in depression. Not to mention isolation and a suppressed libido.
Coming to terms with your mission of no longer enabling your loved one by supporting his denial or feeding his hearing loss and instead helping him or her to get help will get back the good life you both once shared, according to Clinical Audiologist Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of Audiology.
CarmenÂs new book, ÂHow Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your Loved One,Â provides fascinating insights into the psychological mechanisms behind resistance. Clarified is the essential role family members play in co-dependence, and what they can do to shift their loved one from Âstruggling to hearÂ to Âhearing independence .Â It will inspire readers to make the necessary adjustments in their lives that can result in profound changes and a higher quality of life for everyone.
Are you one of those who are compelled to fill in the conversation blanks, talk louder, or interpret what was said? Then you are an enabler; you are co-dependent. Be aware that, so long as you continue on this path, you are pulling out the carpet of motivation from beneath your loved one, and incurring resentment within the both of you.
Resentment cancels out passion. Here are eight steps to beginning a new life and rekindling the passion your relationship once had.
1. Set new boundaries for yourself. DonÂt use your own fear of conflict with your loved one as an excuse to avoid making changes that will benefit you both.
2. Be truthful with yourself and your loved one. Speak from your heart, not from anger, on how this hearing problem impacts you.
3. Be Strong. DonÂt fall back into a cycle of Âhearing for your loved oneÂ just because he or she expects it, and you canÂt bear to see them struggle.
4. Put yourself in their shoes. The need to retain oneÂs self-image or vanity is often times more important than a need to hear. Try understanding. Remove demands, threats and consequences. Instead, offer choices, options and helpful alternatives.
5. Stop being the messenger. Refuse to do the Âhe said - she saidÂ dance for your loved one. He or she needs to be aware what they are missing or they will stay complacent, unmotivated to do anything.
6. Stop raising your voice, then complaining youÂre hoarse. This results in a stressed throat, injured vocal chords, and your diminished well-being, all leading straight to resentment.
7. Eliminate your need to be right. Dig deep and find a sensitive, compassionate way to broach the topic of seeking treatment.
8. Seek out support. Ask for testimonials from friends and colleagues whose relationships were rekindled when they sought a way to return to the hearing world.
Dr. Richard CarmenÂs new book, ÂHow Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your Loved One,Â is available in softcover (107 pages) at most online and brick and mortar bookstores for $15.95.
Other books on the subject by Auricle Ink Publishers:
- ÂThe Consumer Handbook on Hearing Loss and Hearing Aids,Â edited by Clinical Audiologist Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of Audiology
- ÂThe Consumer Handbook on Dizziness & Vertigo, by Dennis Poe, MD, Editor
Sample chapters of all three books are available at http://www.hearingproblems.com
Interviews with Dr. Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of Audiology and copies of ÂHow Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your Loved One,Â are available on request from:
Raleigh Pinskey, Raleigh Communications