(PRWEB) June 30, 2005
The Real Deal is not about Âwhat to doÂ, but about Âhow to beÂ, so it is based on our values. It leads the reader into discovering what they truly value and then teaches how to use that knowledge to live a Âvalues-basedÂ life. Readers discover that they have to learn to love themselves before it is possible to begin real relationships, and then learn what it really takes to begin that process. http://www.committedrelationships.com
Armed with these basics, they can go on to define their ÂtermsÂ: What they will and wonÂt allow in their lives. They learn the importance of ÂdemandingÂ what they need from those around them and not to be satisfied with Âgood enoughÂ. They also learn that although it is basic that they ÂwantÂ real relationships, they canÂt need them for their survival.
One of the many successful graduates of the Committed Relationship Training Course, which is based on the book, was able to use what he learned to stop anguishing about whether the decisions he made in his marriage were right. Without a good sense of his own values, he would often make a decision that felt right at the time and then second-guess himself until he felt he had to go apologize to his wife. This usually made things worse than before because she would lose respect for him and respond with sarcasm and often irrational behavior and demands as she sensed that he was coming from a weak place.
When he learned to make decisions based on what he truly valued rather than what seemed right at the time, his consistency brought a stability into his marriage that wasnÂt there before. The separation they were planning is no longer an option.
Mr Engel is currently in the thirty-fifth year of a loving marriage to his wife Monica. This is the second marriage for them both. The beginnings of his book were the lessons that he learned from his disastrous first marriage of seven years and then of all the years of living since then. Both he and Monica brought two children into their marriage and they have eleven grandchildren between them.
Irv has been involved for ten years in a menÂs organization where he has taught hundreds of men the basic principles of relationships. He is a successful salesman, contractor, relationship coach , husband, father, grandfather and friend. He writes a column for a popular internet site, created and leads Relationship Trainings, coaches individuals and small groups by phone and is available for interviews and articles. His weekly teleconference is a free event to anyone who is interested. His website address is: http://www.committedrelationships.com., and he can be reached at 949 458 8732