A New Take on What Love Is and Isn't

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A new book by Martin Lass and Dr. John Demartini, Â?Love is Everything,Â? presents a radical and confronting view of love. According to the authors, everything in the worldÂ?even wars, conflict, terrorism, crises, pain, and other difficult challengesÂ?is love. Moreover, they assert that their views have a scientific basis.

The age-old question about what love is and what love is not takes a new twist in this controversial book. Bucking against the common notion that the world is comprised of both love and hate, good and bad, right and wrong, and a multitude of other dualities, the authors set out in what amounts to a treatise on love (disguised as a self-help book) to show us how our very notions of love and hate are all a matter of perception—a result of certain illusions and misperceptions we have all had from birth to the present day—and that these very misperceptions are the real basis of all conflict, whether personally or globally.

Certainly, there is nothing new about the idea “all is love.” The New Agers have proclaimed this as far back as the free-love hippie generation of the nineteen-sixties. However, the authors point out that such previous assertions were flawed inasmuch as, in the one breath, such people proclaimed “all is love,” but, in the next breath, they condemned anybody who disagreed with them. The violence erupting at so-called peace rallies was a glaring example of this.

Where the authors and the New Agers part ways lies in the assertion that even wars, conflict, terrorism, crises, pain, and other difficult challenges are love inasmuch as these all mirror our own inner contradictions, conflicts, issues, and wounds and, as such, offer a window into the healing of these same things, personally and globally.

The psychological basis of the authors’ argument lies in their view of perception—in their view of how we each perceive the world. They assert that every time we have an experience—from our first breath at birth to the present moment—the mind “splits” the experience into two sides: a good, right, positive, pleasureful side and a bad, wrong, negative, painful side. The trouble begins when the mind “chooses” one side in favor of the other, i.e. it expresses one side while repressing the other; an event or experience is judged either good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative, and/or pleasureful or painful. Such judgments are the basis of all subsequent conflict, so say the authors.

The preceding is, of course, the way the world works. It has been said that a person without an opinion—a judgment, a viewpoint, a perspective, a belief, a bias, a “take”—has no solidity and is going nowhere. The authors disagree, though. They hold that the answer to healing the world’s ills—whether personally or globally—lies in upturning just such one-sided viewpoints, perspectives, beliefs, and judgments. The healing journey of the world, they assert, lies in seeking out the balancing sides to our polarized perspectives—seeing the “good” in the “bad”, the “right” in the “wrong”, the “positives” in the “negative,” and vice versa. These are the two sides of the real world, they say, but we each tend to see one side at the expense of the other. However, when the two sides of any given event or experience are seen equally and as equally valuable and important, a larger perspective can be attained; a larger “plan” becomes apparent; and, most importantly, say the authors, here is where real love can be born.

The book defines real love as “unconditional,” as opposed to “conditional” love, the latter being but polarized parts of the greater unconditional love and consisting of all the aforementioned polarized perspectives taken each on their own. Conversely, unconditional love subsumes, includes, synthesizes, and dissolves all previous polarities. The authors compare the resultant experience of unconditional love with the ancient idea of enlightenment, which, ironically, brings us to the scientific basis upon which the book is based, according to the authors…

The authors draw upon the physics of light—light taken in its broadest scientific sense to mean all energy (“liquid” light) and all matter (“frozen” light) in the universe—to explain consciousness and to explain our resultant psychology. They also draw upon twenty years of research and practical trials of a healing process developed by Dr. Demartini—The Quantum Collapse Process ®—designed to take advantage of their theories. The authors assert that this healing process and the people they claim it has helped heal over the years proves their point: that unconditional is not only possible, but is scientifically attainable as well as repeatable. The result of the process, they say, is the resolution of conflict, personally and potentially globally, the wiping away of differences between people, the healing of mind, body, and soul, and the prospect of a more evolved humanity.

All this sounds promising, of course. However, the authors do not stop here. They further assert that there is a larger “plan” behind the whole shebang—that our lopsided perspectives and all that these engender in the forms of conflict, wars, terrorism, pain, suffering, and so forth “serve” a larger purpose and that this larger purpose is the true meaning of unconditional love. Such a larger purpose contains within it all the mechanisms of life and experience by which each one of us will eventually come to the realization of the truth of love. In short, the authors assert that every life experience, whether pleasureful or painful, is pointing us toward the realization of love—that all things serve this ultimate aim.

Such claims are bold and fly in the face of conventional notions that suggest that peace is the only answer to the world’s ills. In the authors’ view, wars, too, are an answer inasmuch as they illuminate each of our remaining biases, judgments, blames, misperceptions, issues, and so forth. The real battle, they say, is not one side against the other and who wins in the end, but it is each person against his own divided and contradictory inner nature. As we heal ourselves, so this is reflected in the healing of the world at large. With this last thought, we come back into the realm of what is more generally accepted in the popular view: it all begins with you. To this end, the authors offer Dr. Demartini’s step-by-step healing process—The Quantum Collapse Process ®—to anyone who wants to tackle it, promising that by faithfully and persistently following the prescribed steps, unconditional love will be born in them.

Time will tell if the authors have got the equation right. Apparently, clinical trials of The Quantum Collapse Process ® are under way. We eagerly await the outcome. If nothing else, this book is a refreshing, if a little confronting, contribution to an old and somewhat jaded subject—the subject of love.

“Love is Everything – Healing Your Life with Unconditional Love” by Martin Lass with Dr. John Demartini, Galactic Publications, Nyack, NY, ISBN 1-59457-487-1. The web link is to Martin Lass’s website.


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