Provo, Utah (PRWEB) September 6, 2005
It is common for parents to find themselves frustrated by their childÂs performance in sports and school. Expressing the frustration and criticizing your child is just as common, even when you know you shouldnÂt be critical. But what can I do, you may ask. As parent/mentor, thereÂs a lot you can do. One of the first things is to become a positive role model or mentor in your childÂs life.
ÂWhether your child loves sports, music, drama or art, itÂs all right if your child dislikes the coach,Â says Devin Durrant, author of "Raising An All American: Helping Your Child Excel in Athletics (and in Life)" (Spring Creek Book Company, $16.95, http://www.RaisingAnAllAmerican.com). ÂBut it is not all right if he despises you. You can teach and encourage, but you canÂt compel.Â
To help you become a positive role model and mentor in your childÂs life, Durrant offers five lessons you can share with your child:
1. Help Her Be Coachable. It takes respect and the desire to please her coach.
2. Allow No Excuses. Whatever mistakes your child makes (and he will make some), he must learn to accept responsibility for them.
3. Take Constructive Criticism and Move On. It is through constructive criticism that we better ourselves. Your child must understand the importance of constructive criticism to her development, and also learn that it is not personal, but can boost her overall success.
4. Hope for the Best and Make the Best of the Worst. Your child may have many coaches during his career. He must understand that the coach is in charge even though he may have little to contribute to your childÂs success.
5. Prepare Instead of Complain. Things wonÂt always go the way you or your child want. Help her understand that better preparation is key to winning the coachÂs enthusiasm and support.
Are you ready to play a bigger role in your childÂs development? Are you ready to learn all the tips that will make you a truly effective mentor? Visit http://www.RaisingAnAllAmerican.com to learn the "Secrets of an All American: Nine Ways to Succeed Where Others Fail."