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A Challenge to Bold Living as a Christlike Man

We cannot fulfill Christ's requirement for wisdom, shrewdness, or cunning unless we are proactive.

No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice Instead of Good — Hurts Men, Women, and Children

by Paul Coughlin

New Man Magazine's Editor's Pick (September 2005)

"John Eldredge gave men permission to be 'wild at heart.' Paul Coughlin shows us how to do it. This book is a road map to a larger life."

--David Murrow, author of Why Men Hate Going to Church

"Here I am, a nice Jewish mother, writing the Foreword for a book about Christian nice guys. Why? Because, within the context of Scripture, there is a message for all of us: men and women are created differently, equal in value, but different."

--From the Foreword by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, talk show host and author of the bestselling The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

"Recovering nice guy" Paul Coughlin points the way for all men who yearn to live a life of boldness and conviction -— like Jesus. Using humorous examples from his own life, powerful and poignant stories, and vivid examples from contemporary culture, Coughlin shows how he learned to say no to the "nice guy" syndrome.

After all, Christian nice guys aren't always so nice. In the name of appearing Christian by being agreeable, they can lie, keep secrets, manipulate, duck responsibility, and much more. Using the biblical model of Christ as his example of a real man, Coughlin shows men how to become both gentle and bold.

In a straightforward and balanced approach, Coughlin addresses the grievous error of the church's failure to encourage and embrace men that embody the full masculinity of Christ — bold, gentle, loving, shrewd, aggressive, and humorous.

He challenges Christian nice guys to boldly:

  • conquer fear and false humility and regain outrage against injustice
  • overcome the lifeless passivity that imprisons many men
  • not be an "over-domesticated" husband but become an assertive husband who earn his wife’s respect and live in healthy masculinity

Coughlin also exposes the false stereotypes that men often tolerate. And he points out, "men in general carry decades of shame for being men—its part of our cultural legacy that defines us. We behave as if it's in our DNA. We've been told we're the source of the world's problems because our very nature is wrong."

"We cannot fulfill Christ's requirement for wisdom, shrewdness, or cunning unless we are proactive."--Paul Coughlin

A powerful challenge and a hopeful message that elevates the true biblical model of manhood above prevailing views in the church and contemporary culture, this important book helps men discover who they are in Christ and how to live for Him.


Paul Coughlin hosts a radio talk show on KDOV in southern Oregon and is the author of Secrets, Plots, and Hidden Agendas: What You Don’t Know About Conspiracy Theories. Paul has been interviewed by C-SPAN, the New York Times, and numerous radio and television stations across the country. His articles have appeared in many publications, including New Man, Faithworks, and Ministries Today. He has also been editor of a weekly newspaper and a radio station program director. A former Christian Nice Guy, Paul is happily married and the father of three. The Coughlin family lives in Oregon. Visit

No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice—Instead of Good—Hurts Men, Women, and Children

by Paul Coughlin


ISBN 0-7642-0092-5; Hardcover; $17.99

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