Chillicothe, OH (PRWEB) November 16, 2005
During the holidays, many people experience a mixed sense of excitement and dread. They love the parties and fun, but all too often these get-togethers lead to disasters in even the most important relationships.
According to Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins, there are several ways to avoid relationship disasters and have much more fun during the upcoming holiday season and here are just a few:
1.Be clear about your intentions. Before any get-together, focus on what you want during the event and not on what you don’t want. So often people focus on what they are afraid will happen and that’s exactly what they get.
2.Stop all that internal chatter. Stop thinking about what you're going to say next while the other person is talking or how irritating Uncle Charley is or all the things you have to get done. Instead, focus on listening, truly listening, to your friends, relatives and co-workers. Find out something new that you did not know about them.
3.Get in touch with your feelings. If you get triggered by a conversation, take a few moments to check in with what you are feeling in the moment, even if you have to go to the bathroom to take these moments of quiet for yourself. Breathe and get in touch with you. Acknowledge what you are feeling and set your intention that you are going to stay open to the other person and to understand his/her viewpoint. If you do, you will find that you are better able to make a connection and stay out of the old dramas.
4.Find something to appreciate about the family members or people who tend to “get under your skin,” especially at this time of the year. Believe it or not, if you find something positive about the person, your holiday experience will get better.
5.Have fun! Sit down and play with your children, grandchildren or any other kids at the gathering and give them your full attention. Even if there aren’t any kids at the event, focus your attention and intention on enjoying yourself and watch how your holidays become much more relaxed and joyful.
Is that all? Not at all, but these are just a few of the ways that Susie and Otto Collins can help you create the holidays and relationships that are filled with peace and joy. For more relationship tips and relationship advice on how to survive the holidays, visit http://www.RelationshipGold.com. For interviews, call Susie and Otto Collins 740-772-2279.
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