Can it be True - Two New Basic Skills Help Maintain Weight Loss

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If one has been dieting, there is a good chance they have lost weight. Unfortunately, large numbers of successful dieters quickly regain the poundage. If they wish to maintain the weight they have lost without developing substitute excesses such as overspending, overworking, excessive drinking or smoking, they must satisfy the emotional hunger that causes people to overeat.

Can it be true - two new basic skills help maintain weight loss.

If one has been dieting, there is a good chance they have lost weight. Unfortunately, large numbers of successful dieters quickly regain the poundage. If they wish to maintain the weight they have lost without developing substitute excesses such as overspending, overworking, excessive drinking or smoking, they must satisfy the emotional hunger that causes people to overeat. To do this one needs to master two basic skills – self-nurturing and setting effective limits. Self-nurturing is the ability to check our feelings and needs throughout the day in order to know and honor ourselves and better meet our needs. Setting effective limits is the skill of having reasonable expectations and following through with them. That enables people to take action and have more power and greater safety in their lives.

People who have mastered these two skills are far more likely to be healthy and happy. Learning them is not a quick fix and takes time. But, from the first moment people use them, they will begin to feel better and more satisfied. After these skills are used over and over again, they become integrated into our brains, and the changes are developmental, that is, we begin to feel as if we have a new life.

These are not new concepts. In fact, the essential elements of self-nurturing and setting limits have been part of the scientific literature since at least 1940. The problem is that the current methods used to help people lose weight, don’t involve these skills. So, people lose weight then regain it and begin to believe that they cannot solve their weight problems. They feel powerless and discouraged. All that is completely unnecessary.

Using these two basic skills will allow a personal transformation. But, it requires time – usually 18 months to master the basic skills. Group meetings, such as the support provided by the Buddy system, are key.

Self-nurturing and limits skills consist of clusters of questions that we ask ourselves over and over – until they become automatic.

The following are the questions for the nurturing skills:

  • How do I feel?
  • What do I need?
  • Do I need support?

The following are the questions for the limits skills:

  • Are my expectations reasonable?
  • Is my thinking positive and powerful?
  • What is the essential pain? What is the earned reward? The questions posed by the nurturing cycle enable us to access our deepest feelings. The limits cycle contains our feelings and helps them mature. The goal of the method is the interweaving of the skills. Initially, you use the skills intentionally. That moves us from an imbalanced state to one that is balanced.

It’s extraordinarily powerful to be at the grocery store, stuck in traffic or home alone with the refrigerator packed with food and know that all you have to do is reach for these skills, and, in a matter of moments, you can move yourself above the line. Your drive to overeat will fade. You’ll stop wanting the food. You’ll still enjoy it. But, food becomes just food, not a fix.

What’s more, the groups are fun.

Please call us at 847.696.9900 for weight loss consultation and/or all-natural herbal weight loss product recommendations.

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