Attend the Office Party with Him to Safeguard Against Workplace Affairs

Office parties can be breeding grounds for workplace affairs. Attending the Christmas party with your husband or boyfriend can act as a deterrent to office affairs.

(PRWEB) December 13, 2005 -- “Office parties can be breeding grounds for workplace affairs,” says Ruth Houston, infidelity expert and author of Is He Cheating on You? -- 829 Telltale Signs. That’s one of several reasons why Houston encourages women to attend the office Christmas party with their husbands or boyfriends.

Short-Circuit an Office Affair

Several studies indicate that the workplace is the number one place for cheating husbands to find an affair partner. A recent survey by a private investigation firm showed that of all of the times for a spouse to initiate an affair with a co-worker, the annual office holiday party is when it’s most likely to occur. Houston says her research supports these findings and warns “This is prime time for emotional affairs to turn into sexual affairs. If he’s had his eye on a co-worker, or has been bonding with her all year, the Christmas party is when he’s most likely to make his move. Fortified by a few drinks, he may be emboldened to make his approach -- especially if you’re not there.”

Keep Predatory Females at Bay

Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com says another reason to attend the office party with your spouse or significant other is to make your presence known. “If a co-worker has designs on him, she’s less likely to make a play for him with you there. And other female employees will be less likely to respond to his overtures or advances, if they know he’s already attached. Your presence may keep a budding office romance from becoming a full blown affair.”

Sex at the Office Party

In a recent survey conducted by Men's Health magazine, 44 percent of the males said they'd had an affair with a co-worker at a holiday office party at some point in their life. Houston cites alcohol as a major contributing factor, saying, “With alcohol flowing freely, one drink too many can lower inhibitions to the danger zone. Infidelity may only be a couple of cocktails away. Your being there with him will help your partner keep his libido in check, and keep him from doing something he may later regret.”

If you Suspect a Workplace Affair

What if you suspect that your husband or boyfriend is already romantically involved with someone one at work? This is your best opportunity to find out if what you suspect is true. By watching him interact with the women on his job, you’ll be able to tell if and with whom he’s having a workplace affair. If he is involved with a co-worker, their body language or their behavior toward each other will give them away. If you’re observant, you can find out the identity of his lover by the way he behaves in her presence, or by how she acts around him. If you’re not sure exactly what to look for, send for Houston’s free tip sheet entitled “What to Look for at the Office Party if You Suspect a Workplace Affair.” Send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com (InfidelityInfo at gmail.com) with “what to look for” in the subject line.

If You Can’t Attend His Office Party

If spouses or significant others aren’t allowed to attend the Christmas party, is there anything else you can do? Houston says “First be sure that’s really the case. Some men tell their wives or girlfriends it’s an ‘employees only’ party just to make sure they don’t attend.”

If the office party is held during working hours, Houston suggests offering to meet him afterward for dinner or drinks. “If he knows you’re waiting downstairs in the lobby for him, he’s less likely to show up with lipstick on his collar, make out in the parking lot, or sneak off to a nearby hotel. If he nixes this idea, I’d show up anyway to see who he leaves the party with.”

About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the author of “Is He Cheating on You? -- 829 Telltale Signs” which covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the signs most women overlook. Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, Newsday, Cosmopolitan, the Houston Chronicle, the New York Post, the Toronto Sun, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, the Albany Times Union, the Indianapolis Star, the Baltimore Sun, Complete Woman, First magazine, Crain’s New York Business, the Christian Science Monitor, City Life and numerous other print and online media. She has been a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, BBC, CBC, Telemundo and over 200 other radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, New Zealand and the Caribbean, For more information, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com

To interview Ruth Houston, e-mail her at InfidelityExpert@gmail.com (InfidelityExpert at gmail.com) or call 718 592-6039.

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