Say “So Long!” to Separation Anxiety

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Taking a time-out from your relationship just might be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself, and your spouse.

While many people believe separation serves as the first step toward

divorce, one counselor’s experience shows that 50 percent of partners

actually return to their relationships after separation.

Whether you’ve reached a point where you think you’re “falling out of

love,” feeling overworked and under appreciated, or making your way

through a midlife crisis, managed separation can be a viable

alternative to immediate divorce, offering a path that increases the

chances of keeping your marriage and family intact.

“In marriage or relationships, we often see separation as a sign of trouble inevitably leading to divorce,” says Robert J. Buchicchio, author of Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship (CharLer Publishing, “In fact, temporary separations can often be exactly what couples need to grow, develop, and renew their commitment to each other and themselves.”

One of the first counselors in the United States to focus on developing a 10 step problem solving guide to help couples manage periods of both psychological and physical separation, Buchicchio has spent over thirty five years in relationship, marriage, and divorce counseling, and has helped hundreds of couples sort through conflict.

According to Buchicchio, if there is excessive conflict in your relationship, taking a wellmanaged time out can help you . . .

Establish space

Reduce conflict

Restore communication

Regain balance

Repair boundaries

Focus on self-growth

Together, the benefits of separation not only make you a better person, but may also

provide a solid base for restoring – and improving – life with the one you love.

Think it’s time for a “time-out”? Get “10 Tips to Manage Your Separation from a Spouse

Effectively” at

BIO: Robert Buchicchio, LICSW, DCSW Expert in Separation Managment

Robert J. Buchicchio, LICSW, DCSW, has spent thirty-five years

counseling couples about relationships, marriage, divorce and separation.

He was one of the first mental health professionals in the United States

to develop a specific 10 step problem solving guide couples can use to

successfully manage both short and long-term separations. In addition,

Buchicchio offers professional training on separation management to

mental health and mediation professionals. He is also in the process of

developing a series of self-help courses on CD, DVD, and VHS for

professionals, individuals and couples.

Buchicchio earned his B.A. in Psychology from the University of

Rhode Island and his M.S.W. in clinical social work from

Ohio State University. He has taught at Vermont College and Norwich University,

and worked as a professional associate with the American Humane Association and Action for Child Protection, Inc. Buchicchio also served as the chief.

Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship

CharLer Publishing


ISBN: 0-9774568-0-3



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