New York, NY (PRWEB) June 7, 2006
Life started out so great. It felt as though you were locked inside a great big bubble of happiness. You got married to the love of your life and proceeded to have three children. You are young. You were young. Your husband or wife has been taking care of all the bills. Three or four years go by and things are slowing changing. Your husband or wife is not home as much to help you with your household chores or with caravaning the children to their in sundry appointments and birthday parties. You feel isolated and alone. Suddenly you start to see things unraveling. You become unhappy, you start to feel unworthy. You worry because you have no idea what is happening to your life, a life which was once the envy of your single friends.
You wonder... is this the way things are supposed to turn out? Then the arguing begins, sometimes involving verbal abuse or even physical abuse. Sometimes, you just feel isolated and neglected. You have no one to talk to about your changing life. You have asked, but your spouse refuses to see a marital counselor or counsel from your church or synagogue. You can not turn to family, as they are still reminding you of how wonderful your spouse has been, what a wonderful provider he or she is. And then the day comes when your husband or wife tells you that they no longer love you or that they want a divorce or separation.
In New York State, the NYS divorce attorney hears a version of the above fact scenario day in and day out. The above stated fact scenario is more common than you might think. Yet each individual has their own set of circumstances, their own priorities, their own way of looking at things, and things are just not that simple.
You may turn to friends and family and everyone has a different view point on what to do. Stay? Go?
You turn to a therapist to sort out your feelings and invariably you come to terms with the fact that things are going to have to change. Change is a scary thing to confront. The ugly word starts being bantered about. Divorce. Now what.
The first thing you should do is start finding out how to protect the best interests of yourself and your children. If you or your children are being ill treated or abused there are places you can go and things that you can do immediately to stop the abuse.
Call 911. Call child protective services, there is a department in each and every county in New York State. Go to Family Court and get an Order of Protection. Call your family lawyer. Or seek immediate custody of the subject children. At all costs, protect the children from harms way.
And then start worrying about what you must do to begin preparing for divorce. Call a New York City divorce lawyer. If you are in nyc and seek a top nyc divorce lawyer then search the internet and call a few attorneys and find one you are comfortable with. If you are in a smaller town or county you can call your local Bar Association for a referral. But by all means get help. Do not stay in a situation of domestic violence. The NY Family Court has a wonderful history of providing a respite for those in fear of their lives.
And if you feel you just can not go it alone, do not be afraid to seek out professional help from a New York State lawyer. The more experienced ones will know just what to do to protect your legal rights in an efficient way and make you feel comfortable at the same time. Your secrets are safe with a ny divorce lawyer. If the above sounds familiar do not hesitate to act now. Hire a nyc divorce lawyer now.
If you are safe and out of harm's way, then seek a New York Divorce Lawyer. If you are in New York City, then here is a partial list of some shelters you can go to until you have a chance to see a reputable New York Divorce lawyer or New York Family Law Lawyer.
NYC Women's Shelter Intakes
Franklin, 1122 Franklin Avenue, Bronx
Jamaica Armory, 93-03 168th St., Jamaica, Queens
Brooklyn Women's Shelter, 116 Williams Ave., Brooklyn
Resources Equinox Domestic Violence Services
95 Central Avenue
Albany, NY 12206
45 Carlton Street
Buffalo, New York 14203
P.0. Box 451 Ellicott Station
Buffalo, New York 14205
Nassau County Coalition Against Domestic Violence
250 Fulton Ave. Mezz. West
Hempstead, NY 11550
The Salvation Army of the Syracuse Area
677 South Salina Street
Syracuse, NY 13202
P. O. Box 365
Syracuse, NY 14309
(315) 468-3260 - 24-hour Crisis
and Support Line
Women In Need
115 West 31st Street
New York, NY 10001
Yonkers MHA (YWCA)
87 South Broadway
Yonkers, NY 10701
National Domestic Violence Hotline for referrals and support: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY: 1-800-787-3224.
New York 24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-942-6906 (English) or 1-800-942-6908 (Spanish).
By: Lisa Beth Older
web page: http://www.lawofficesoflisabetholder.com
Warning: The information contained herein is not intended to substitute for legal advice from your own retained lawyer in new york state. this article is merely informational in nature, and is based upon one attorney's knowledge of the practice of family law, matrimonial law, domestic violence, custody, child support and orders of protection.
Retain counsel before you do anything to affect your marital status and follow the advice of the lawyer you retain, not what is written herein.