New Book Provides Hope and Help for Frustrated Wives With Emotionally Checked-Out Husbands
Standing apart from the many "how-to" marriage books, Married… But Not Engaged deals with the issue of passive, avoidant men on several different levels. The Coughlins, who have been married 15 years, help wives understand the underlying forces that make men passive by looking at the inner lives of their emotionally absent men.
Minneapolis, MN (PRWEB) August 11, 2006 -— Paul Coughlin, author of the popular No More Christian Nice Guy, has teamed up with his wife, Sandy, to confront the false shame and guilt women feel over their inability to connect with their emotionally-absent husbands. Paul and Sandy Coughlin understand this common problem, because once Paul was a "Christian Nice Guy" husband and Sandy was his frustrated wife.
Standing apart from the many "how-to" marriage books, Married… But Not Engaged deals with the issue of passive, avoidant men on several different levels. The Coughlins, who have been married 15 years, help wives understand the underlying forces that make men passive by looking at the inner lives of their emotionally absent men.
Yet the road to healing does not end there. The Coughlins take it even deeper, laying out and showing practical ways a wife can help her husband become the man he wants to be. These include:
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- Helping her husband understand what fear is doing to his life, but without comparing him to other men.
- Coming to understand and respond appropriately to her checked-out husband, such as never shaming him for being passive and fearful.
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The Coughlins also encourage wives to foster an atmosphere of intimacy and respect by modeling empathy (which they call a wife's "secret weapon"), honesty and assertiveness, and creating healthy boundaries. Always encouraging the wife to proceed with wisdom, grace, and love, Paul and Sandy Coughlin help couples heal and create the intimacy they desire in a biblical and loving way.
According to Paul Coughlin, "At its best, intimacy is a level of connected awareness in which two people lift each other up higher than they could go on their own. Much anger, and all the resentment and disrespect, hinder intimacy's growth, just as they stunt other qualities and virtues you want in your marriage. It's time to call a much needed and belated truce."
This book was written in response to the many letters from women who had read Paul Coughlin's No More Christian Nice Guy and said his depiction of passivity perfectly described their husbands.
About the Authors:
Paul Coughlin hosts a radio talk show in southern Oregon and is the author of No More Christian Nice Guy. Paul has been interviewed by C-SPAN, the New York Times, Moody's Open Line, At Home Live, Today's Issues and many other media outlets across the country. His articles have appeared in Today's Christian Woman, New Man, Faithworks, Ministries Today, and Crosswalk.com. A former Christian Nice Guy, Paul is a happily married father of three. The Coughlin family lives in Medford, Oregon. Visit christianniceguy.com. Sandy Coughlin works from her home and is active in her local public schools, where she serves in multiple volunteer roles, including PTO advisor and special-projects coordinator. Sandy loves running, hosting parties, healthful cooking, ballroom dancing with her husband, and playing Scrabble. Visit http://www.bethanyhouse.com/marriedbutnotengaged to download the cover.
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