I’m afraid you’re going to leave me
Chillicothe,OH (PRWEB) August 14, 2006
With a divorce rate of 50 % and higher in the USA and many other countries, many people are left wondering “Why?” In most relationships and marriages, “Sex, Money and Communication” are typically thought of as the big reasons why couples fight, argue and even break up. While these issues continue to be challenges for many couples, jealousy and the jealous behavior by one or more of the partners is quickly emerging as one of the big sticking points in many relationships and marriages.
In fact, according to Relationship Coaches Susie & Otto Collins, there are several reasons why this is happening and here are a few:
1. Most couples are busier than ever, and are trying to “do it all.” They put their relationship on the “back burner” and don’t take the time to connect and communicate with each other.
2. More time is spent at work with co-workers than with a spouse and this is causing mistrust and misunderstandings between couples.
3. Both people are buying into unhealthy expectations and beliefs about relationships such as “You should know what I’m thinking or feeling without me telling you,” “I’m afraid you’re going to leave me,” or “You’ll always be there.”
Jealousy has become a huge problem that can cripple a relationship between two people who otherwise love each other deeply.
What’s the solution? According to the Collins’ there are some ways to heal jealousy…
1. Jealous feelings result from real or imagined fears that the relationship will be taken away. The first thing is to determine whether the fears result from real or imagined events.
2. When triggered by jealousy, breathe and keep focused on what’s truly happening in situations. Don’t listen to the stories that are made up in your mind.
3. Create a plan for healing jealousy. If there’s truth to your suspicions, deal with that truth in a straightforward way. If there’s no truth and nothing currently “causing” jealous behavior, decide to heal it and take steps to change. Jealousy can be healed. It just takes courage, commitment and learning some new skills.
Because this is such a big problem, Susie and Otto Collins also offer a free online mini-course for overcoming jealousy that has been helpful to thousands of individuals and couples dealing with jealous issues from their web site at http://www.JealousNoMore.com. For interviews, call Susie and Otto Collins 740-772-2279.