The Art of Flirting - 4 First Date Tips From the Experts at It’s Just Lunch

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It’s Just Lunch, the premier dating service for busy professionals, is here to teach singles the art of flirting with tips from The It’s Just Lunch Guide to Dating in America.

Do you find yourself too nervous to approach an attractive stranger you see from across the bar? It’s time to once and for all put aside your fears and take a couple risks.

It’s Just Lunch has assembled the following tips which are designed to take you through the whole process of flirting, from getting noticed to closing the deal in four easy steps.

Step 1: The Preliminaries

Strike a Pose – When you walk into a social situation, pause in the doorway with your head held high. The idea is to let all potential dates get a good look at you at your best. Then proceed with confidence across the room.

Divide and Conquer – Ladies, break up the pack - men will never approach you if you are surrounded by ten of your closest friends. Men, no woman in her right mind will shoulder her way through a group of guys to get to you. Make room for the opposite sex and they are more likely to find their way to you.

Use a Prop – Props are a great way to start up a conversation. Try a book, a shirt with your favorite sports team or a pet. Dogs are people magnets and take away the pressure of coming up with a clever conversation starter.

Step 2: The Approach

Eye See You – The most effective flirting tools you have are your eyes. If you catch the eye of someone you find attractive and they look back, don’t be self-conscious and turn away. Do the glance – linger – look away – then reconnect routine. After a few times the other person will know you are interested.

Instant Confidence – Instead of thinking “what will they think of me” when you are approaching someone you find attractive, turn it around and try thinking, ”will I like them?”.

Step 3: The Flirt

Flirting is all about showing interest in the other person. So ask questions and be attentive to their answers. It’s also an ego booster that makes people feel more attractive and desirable. Two things are going on when you flirt - the actual conversation and body language.

During your conversation remember to be sincere, be yourself and be funny. Showing you have a sense of humor will help you both relax and let your guards down. Use the other person’s name and lean in when you’re talking to them and lightly touch their arm or back.

Step 4: The Proposition

After spending some time flirting, it’s time for the next step - asking for a date. Asking someone if they’d like to go out sometime is too vague, so instead invite them to a baseball game you have tickets for or if they like art tell them about a new exhibit at the local museum you were dying to see. Pose the question as if you’re already going and they can join you, if interested. This will make you feel less desperate and take the pressure off both of you if they say no.

More information and tips on dating can be found in the It’s Just Lunch! Guide to Dating in America and in The It’s Just Lunch! Guide to Dating in Your City.

About It’s Just Lunch

Since It’s Just Lunch was founded in 1991, the company has arranged millions of fun, first date lunches or drinks after work—an atmosphere where singles can feel comfortable with the process of meeting a new person. With over 90 locations worldwide, each day IJL arranges hundreds of fun, first dates over lunch or drinks after work at over 1,500 restaurants. With many introductions leading to second dates, It’s Just Lunch is the world’s leading first date authority.

The U.S. dating industry is estimated at nearly $1.5 billion, and growing at 25% annually, with 110 million single adults in the United States alone.

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