Top Psychiatrist Gives Men What They’ve Been Secretly Craving: an Owner’s Manual for a Happy Marriage

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Time Magazine names it one of the six "Books for a Better You in 2006" When "Secrets of Happily Married Men" was listed on Time Magazine's list of "6 Books for a Better You in 2006," psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, MD, knew he was on to something big. Dr. Haltzman, a Brown University faculty member and marriage therapist, always knew men wanted to know how to build and maintain a happy relationship. "There's a myth that because men don't like to talk about their relationship, they don't care about building a strong one with their partner. The research shows that's just not true." Dr. Haltzman contends that men feel deeply about building and maintaining a strong relationship with their wife or girlfriend. "They simply don't have the verbal skills that women do to express that wish."

When "Secrets of Happily Married Men" was listed on Time Magazine's list of "6 Books for a Better You in 2006," psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, MD, knew he was on to something big. Dr. Haltzman, a Brown University faculty member and marriage therapist, always knew men wanted to know how to build and maintain a happy relationship. "There's a myth that because men don't like to talk about their relationship, they don't care about building a strong one with their partner. The research shows that's just not true." Dr. Haltzman contends that men feel deeply about building and maintaining a strong relationship with their wife or girlfriend. "They simply don't have the verbal skills that women do to express that wish."

That's because, as many women already know, men are less able to read emotions. "There's a bridge between the part of the brain that feels and the part of the brain that talks; that bridge is more developed in women," says Haltzman. So, it's true that a husband can't talk about his emotions as well as his wife can. This often leads to a woman being upset at her man because she may be expecting something from him that he just can't give.

"Luckily, even though guys can't talk about their relationship, they still want to read about what they can do to improve it," points out Haltzman. In the "Secrets Of Happily Married Men,” the Yale-trained psychiatrist explores eight ways that husbands can win their wives' hearts. Bucking the tide of "inner child" psychobabble, Haltzman speaks in a language that men understand. Among his suggestions are:

Give Your Mate The Number One Gift In A Marriage: A Willing Ear To Listen. And don't interrupt! A guy's first instinct is to stop his partner in her tracks so he can give her a solution to her problem. What men don't understand is that women feel more supported when their mate simply listens without trying to fix her problem.

Apply The Skills You Use At Work To Your Marriage Such As: learn what you're supposed to do; find new and better ways of meeting your goals and get to know your most important customer - your wife.

Dare To Be Metrosexual. A new cologne, haircut, and wardrobe go a long way toward winning your partner's heart. Guys who spent hours in front of the mirror getting ready for a date often give up their grooming habits after marriage. Keeping up appearances shows that you still care about attracting your mate.

And the main piece of advice, "Your woman has to feel like she's your number one priority. Men don't always realize how their wives need to be put first. When a woman knows that you are 100 percent invested in her happiness, she starts to meet your needs in return," says Haltzman.

About the Author

Scott Haltzman, M.D., maintains a private psychiatric practice in Rhode Island and serves as Medical Director of Northern Rhode Island Community Services. He is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and is currently Clinical Assistant Professor Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University where he received his undergraduate and medical degrees. He completed a fellowship in psychiatry at Yale University. A sought after speaker on the lecture circuit, he has given numerous presentations including the Smart Marriages conference and the American Psychiatric Association annual convention.

Dr. Haltzman is available for interviews or speaking engagements. He has been seen on the "Today Show", "20/20", and "The Situation with Tucker Carlson", and has been cited in "Time Magazine", "Glamour", "Psychology Today", "New York Times", the" Washington Post" and other national media. His wit and insights have inspired audiences throughout the country.

For more information or to schedule an interview, contact:

Lori Ames, Vice President

Jane Wesman Public Relations

322 Eighth Avenue, Suite 1702

New York, New York 10001

"The Secrets Of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever" (January 2006) By Scott Haltzman, M.D. with Theresa Foy DiGeronimo Publisher: Jossey-Bass, A Wiley Imprint Price: $22.95/hardcover, ISBN: 0-7879-7959-7

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