Cutchogue, NY (PRWEB) October 24, 2006
Searching for a potential mate is hard enough, but finding a potential princess can be daunting. That's why Prince Marco Borghese of Long Island has offered advice on love to his cousin Prince Lorenzo Borghese, this year's Bachelor on ABC-TV.
"Lorenzo's looking for his Grace Kelly -- just like so many other people out there," says Marco Borghese. "And since I found mine with my beloved wife, Ann Marie, I thought I would share some advice for a fairy tale ending for anyone."
Married for 22 years, Marco and Ann Marie Borghese own Castello di Borghese, the oldest vineyard on Long Island in New York State. Winners of numerous international awards, Castello di Borghese Vineyard and Winery has earned widespread respect.
Marco offers the following tips to find -- and keep -- a Princess or Prince Charming:
1. Be available. "You can't hide in a crowd," says Borghese. "You need to look approachable and be approachable when looking for a partner." This means being proactive by going out to events and other gatherings, and volunteering for a cause you already love. "Remember, love finds the person who is easy to find," he says.
2. Do things you enjoy. "Part of what makes someone just right for you is that you can be with them while you do the things you love," he says. "For example, Ann Marie and I share a passion for wine. We have used that passion to create the winery of our dreams and that has helped us grow closer in our relationship."
3. Don't jump the gun. "Don't make judgments on looks alone," says Borghese. "Looks are only ONE part -- and a small part -- of what makes a person a unique individual." The person who attracts our ego is seldom the one our soul deeply desires to be with, and our soul mate is often the person who looks all wrong to our ego. Although the Prince admits that it was love at first site when he met Ann Marie, one should, "take the time to get to know someone before deciding if he or she is the right person for you."
4. Understand your core values. "People change over the years, some hobbies come and go, and if you choose a soul mate based on something fleeting, it will depart at some point," he says. Decide what is important to you for the long term, not short term and focus on those values to grow a relationship.
5. Don't look for a fairy tale. "Yes, there are available princesses and princes looking for a soul mate," says the Prince, "But if you are looking for something perfect, you'll be looking for a long time. Embrace real life and real love -- warts and all.
6. Keep the story going. "Human beings are mysterious, fascinating creatures. Couples run into trouble when each looks at his or her other half and thinks, 'That's all she wrote. I know this person completely,'" says Borghese. That's when they take each other for granted, then stop making an effort to have deep conversations or to try new, exciting activities together. "My best advice is to maintain a sense of wonder about your partner and you will always have wonder in your relationship."
According to the Prince, "A soul mate is someone whose lock fits our keys, and their keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are. We can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be."
For more information, including romantic getaways at the Castello di Borghese, call 800-734-5158 or visit http://www.BorgheseVineyard.com
About the Castello di Borghese Winery & Vineyard
With noble roots dating back to Ninth Century Italy, Prince Marco and Princess Ann Marie Borghese offer tastings of their ever-expanding selection of sophisticated Castello di Borghese wines that make you feel like royalty.
With vines that date back over three decades, Borghese offers the only wines of "old vines" quality and elegance from the North Fork of Long Island, New York. It is truly the birthplace of the Long Island wine industry and it shows in the production of elegant, sophisticated and award-winning wines.