The Perfect Valentine: The Philosophical Date
Ilexa Yardley, author of "Absolute Intelligence" (on Amazon.com), says “everything’s a circle,” and because of the circle we can always find the perfect valentine by engaging in “The Philosophical Date.” Dating is nothing more than a process of uncovering hidden traits, not just within our partner, but, within ourselves. For the most interesting Valentine’s Day ever, “The Philosophical Date” shows us, very quickly, just exactly who we are.
(PRWEB) February 13, 2006 -- Ilexa Yardley’s web-site, www.PopularPhilosophy.com, articulates the ideas from her book, "Absolute Intelligence." Yardley’s message? “Everything’s a circle.” For Valentine’s Day, people can psych out their favorite partner by working through the exercises in “The Philosophical Date” (on Yardley's web-site).
“The Philosophical Date” cuts through unnecessary hearts and flowers and gets right to the point: what do we love and hate about a partner? People who figure this out, says Yardley, figure out the secret to relationships: what we love and hate about others, we also love and hate about ourselves. Accepting all the traits, good and bad, takes us to nirvana. How do we get there?
Day or Night?
What we see or feel is never completely accurate. Is it Day or Night? Is a partner showing good or bad traits? Over time we can see the whole picture, but actually we can see it right now, if we pay attention to the fact that everything occurs in opposite pairs. What a partner shows us today is is definitely opposite what he or she will show us tomorrow, and, more important, this is true for us as well.
Opposite ApproachTM
We can figure out how to use the opposite to our advantage. Writing down the things we love, hate, like, and do not like about our partners is the perfect exercise for figuring out what we love, hate, like, and do not like about ourselves. This is the message and the method of “The Philosophical Date.” We can maximize a relationship pretty quickly if we are honest without ourselves about ourselves (forgiving ourselves for our not-so-terrific traits). If we don’t, we are going to have to work through an unbelievable number of relationships (so we can, over time, figure out who we are).
Allegory in the Sand
Learning to ignore is the trait most necessary for success in any relationship. It is totally impossible to eliminate the bad side of any person (ourselves very much included) and once we accept this fully we can move on to enjoy ourselves and all the other people in our lives. We can save a lot of unnecessary heartache if we accept, right up front, good and bad traits are necessary for survival, and, over time we all share the exact same traits. So if our partner is dishonest, so are we. And that’s really all there is to it. There are no completely honest people (the circle forces this).
Absolute Intelligence
Ilexa Yardley’s material shows the circle is the form common to all entities, real and ideal, male and female, here and there, now and then. The circle, as the “absolute intelligence” within all things, makes life very easy to enjoy. “Relationships are easy,” Yardley says, “once we figure out all things occur in pairs.” The circle, a set of equal and opposite pairs, means everything is “hiding” its opposite side. It is totally impossible, and unnecessary, really, to eliminate any side of any pair, and, over time, it is totally impossible to ignore this.
Enjoy It Now
So the Valentine’s message of "The Philosophical Date" is this: enjoy it now! Says Yardley, “Thinking something is going to be better in the future is a total waste of time and thinking energy.” Everything we have in our life at the present moment is perfect just the way it is, good, bad and indifferent. Over time, all people show the exact same traits. It’s more a process of understanding circles, and accepting the yin-yang opposites that are a part of everything. And keeping focus on what we like about a person, including what we like about ourselves, and totally ignoring what we cannot stand. And, guess what. On some level, we’re already doing this. The Philosophical Date shows, over time, we are our own best “valentine.”
Luckily, Yardley’s material can help anyone to see this more clearly.Yardley's book, "Absolute Intelligence," on Amazon.com, further articulates these basic, circular ideas.
For "The Philosophical Date", see www.PopularPhilosophy.com. Have a Happy Valentine’s Day.
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