Really Bad News: How to Best Handle Your Emotions When You Learn Very Bad News (by a Featured Expert in the #1 Bestselling "The Secret")

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Really bad news -- everyone will get it at some point in life. And whether it is that a loved one has died, they've got a serious disease, or other bad news, the experience of getting the news can be quite traumatic. However, there are important insights everyone should learn now to reduce the impact and plan for this little-discussed but inevitable occurrence in life.

Hearing bad news -- a loved one has died, you have a disease, you've lost your job, etc. -- can feel like getting hit by a truck. The wind gets knocked out of you, you're completely dismayed, your life has been changed and the whole world now looks different.

Not surprisingly, a study published in the journal Cancer found that all newly diagnosed breast cancer patients experience distress. But more serious than that, close to half of them were so distraught they met criteria for a significant psychiatric disorder, such as major depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.

Clearly, getting really bad news is never easy. Still, you've got to go on, you have kids to support, and a life that's waiting. But how?

According to Hale Dwoskin, a featured expert in the film and New York Times mega-bestseller "The Secret" and founder of The Sedona Method, "Though it may seem impossible, there are steps people can review and get to know now that, should they ever hear bad news, they can use to help cope and gain a new start in life. It is certainly much better to be prepared for really bad news in this way."

They can also share these important insights with friends and family, including:


It's easy to feel isolated and alone after hearing bad news, or to get caught up in the details so much so that you stop doing enjoyable things in your life. Make an effort to talk with positive people around you, join support groups, and keep doing the things in life that you enjoy (while canceling those things you do not).


In the case of an illness diagnosis or other similar situation, empower yourself with information. Search the Internet for information about the disease, read stories of survivors, do some research at the library or browse through message boards of others going through a similar tragedy. Feeling like you are doing something is often helpful to soothe anxiety and fears.


While you may hear well-meaning friends and loved ones telling you to "pick your head up" and "stay strong," it's important not to feel bad about any feelings you may be having. It's completely normal and OK to feel afraid, distraught or alone. As you begin to work through the bad news and its impact on your life, allow yourself to feel every emotion freely and without judgment.


During tough times, don't expect to stay perfectly organized or keep up with your previous pace. Ask for help when you need it, cancel any obligations that you find to be draining and take care of yourself by eating well, sleeping and exercising. And, above all else, don't be hard on yourself.


No matter what type of emotional trauma you may be facing, such as grief or fear of what's to come, there are a series of stages most people go through. You may first deny the event or try to ignore it, willing back the life you used to know. Secondly, you may get angry or start to resent the situation, asking "Why me?" You then may start to question things and want to "bargain" your way out of the tough times, and finally end up feeling depressed or abandoned in some way.

While these stages are completely normal, they also keep you from accepting what has happened. Acceptance is emotionally difficult, but it is necessary to allow yourself to move on. When you have accepted the event, you can view it with a sense of calm resignation, rather than the fear, anger or sadness that used to be there.

The Sedona Method -- studied and verified effective by Harvard Medical School -- is an excellent tool to help you gain acceptance and, even beyond that, move forward with your life. It works by teaching you to release the negative patterns of thought and behavior that often cause us to get stuck in one difficult stage or another. Once you free yourself of these negativities, you will feel more alive and cared for, even in situations that used to remind you of your trauma.

Right now everyone can get the free Insiders Guide to The Sedona Method email course sampler by inputting just their name and email in the sidebar on the right at

For more insights on the topic of how to handle really bad news and related topics, Hale Dwoskin, New York Times Best-Selling author of The Sedona Method, featured expert in the film and New York Times bestseller "The Secret," and CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates, is available for interviews. Sedona Training Associates is an organization that teaches courses based on the emotional releasing techniques originated by Hale Dwoskin's mentor, Lester Levenson. Dwoskin is an international speaker and featured faculty member at Esalen and the Omega Institute. For over a quarter century, he has regularly been teaching The Sedona Method techniques to individuals and corporations throughout the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. Visit

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