Date Like Jane Austen: What Most Single Women Really Want Isn't a Rich Man -- It's a Good Man to Love

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Py Kim Conant, author of "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha," offers single women tips on the Four Core Characteristics of a Good Man, which ties in with the upcoming movie "Becoming Jane." In the movie, Jane Austen finds a good man for love, not a rich man that Jane's parents want her to marry. Conant says that the Four Core Characteristics of a Good Man are the most important and fundamental areas of a man's character -- not at all his wealth.

Has any woman ever lost the man of her dreams because of her family's and friends' advice: love is just temporary, so find a rich man? Py Kim Conant, author of "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha," almost did. But then she chose to marry for love, much as Jane Austen finds a good man for love, not a rich man that Jane's parents want her to marry in the romance-pseudo biography movie "Becoming Jane."

Newsweek says, "Like BMW, Prada and Martha Stewart, she's [Jane Austen] now a brand" (July 2, 2007 issue). Conant sees the Jane Austen "mania" preceding the movie "Becoming Jane" as an opportunity for American women to bring more romance and love into their lives, making those qualities of a higher priority than Jane's mother's warning, "Affection is desirable. Money is absolutely indispensable!"

Conant shares her own personal and inspirational story of "love versus money" and the influence of her family on her own situation. "My family was against my marriage, saying that Richard was too old at 57, 20 years older than I. He had no stable job, no savings, no pension, no stocks, no house, not even a car while living in Los Angeles." But Conant chose Richard, the first man who had ever said to her, "You're pretty." (Later he added, "I love you," another first for Conant).

Inspired by her husband, Conant offers single women tips on the Four Core Characteristics of a Good Man, saying, "These are the most important and fundamental areas of a man's character -- not his wealth -- that must be right in order for single women to find a wonderful, happy, loving relationship and marriage with him."

Single women, Conant advises, should not compromise at all in these four areas; a good man must possess these traits:

1. He has good values. Although the good man's values don't have to align perfectly with hers, the fundamental values of honesty and integrity (with her and with others) should be a basic part of his psychological makeup.

2. He is aware, conscious and responsible. As a conscious and aware person herself, she sees that real love and long-term happiness are unlikely if her man does not seek to understand the reality of any situation and then deal responsibly with it.

3. He is nice, and he is supportive of her. There is nothing worse for a nice woman than to be treated unkindly by the man she loves and treats so well. Nice men are nice to everyone because they are nice people. Her evaluation of how nice or not nice a man is will weigh heavily in her judgment of whether he is a good man for her.

4. He is positive, optimistic and happy. Make sure the men she dates, especially those she chooses to sleep with and the one she chooses to marry, are happy people, because a marriage to an unhappy (or depressed) man will be an unhappy marriage, guaranteed.

Conant turns Jane Austen's mom's advice totally around: "Financial responsibility and security are desirable, but love for a Good Man is in dispensable."

About the book: "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy and Keep Your Man" (Hunter House; 2007; Paperback Original: $13.95), is a practical, how-to book to help a Western/American woman to use an Asian Geisha approach to finding and keeping love for both single and married women.

About Py Kim Conant is the author of "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy and Keep Your Man" (Hunter House, 2007). She has been on more than 60 radio shows coast-to-coast and also appeared on CN8 TV "Your Morning" in Philadelphia, KOMO TV (ABC) "Northwest Afternoon" in Seattle, "The View from The Bay" (ABC) in San Francisco, and "KTLA Morning News" (The CW network) in Los Angeles. For more sex and relationship tips, visit her website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

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