Bellingham, WA (PRWEB) September 10, 2007
Mothers across the country are concerned with the latest report from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. The rise in suicide rates for tween girls, ages 10-14 is startling. Silvana and Sondra Clark, authors of "12 Going on 29: How to Survive Your Daughter's Tween Years" share advice on how to foster a strong mother/tween daughter relationship. "While it sounds simple, spending time with your daughter in fun activities is a sure-fire way to help her develop confidence and a positive self-image," said Silvana Clark, a professional speaker and author. Her daughter, 17-year-old Sondra, is the author of seven published books and a spokesperson for two companies. "We asked hundreds of tweens and mothers to fill out a survey about their relationship," said Sondra. "So many girls wished they could do more fun things with their moms. The majority of girls also said their moms were the first person they go to with a problem."
The following are ways mothers can help tween girls gain a positive view of life:
- Learn new skills with your daughter. Take a class in sign language or build a book case together. Girls learn to see they have the ability to accomplish new tasks.
- Volunteer together. Young girls need to see a world exists beyond their own life. You don't have to serve soup at a soup kitchen. Volunteer to walk dogs at the local humane shelter or collect books for a Head Start program.
- Teach your daughter resiliency. Let her figure out how to get the extra money for her designer jeans. Encourage her to meet with a teacher about a failing grade before you step in. Girls need to see they can solve their own problems in small matters. Those skills transfer on later in life when it comes to selecting a college or finding a job.
Tween girls are faced with many pressures from society to grow up fast. It's a parent's responsibility to find age-appropriate activities for their young daughters. This doesn't mean signing up for every enrichment program possible. 10-14-year-olds need time to daydream, to sketch out their ideal bedroom or even to attempt to sew a costume on a sewing machine. Instead of driving girls from activity to activity, mothers can spend time in low key activities together such as exploring a museum or starting a container garden. It's the time spent in positive interactions that strengthen relationships, not a mad rush to get from soccer to ballet class. As girls learn they are capable of learning and solving problems, they look to the future with healthy optimism, not a desire to end their lives.
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