Phoenix Books' Sexography: a Triumphant Tale of Survival and the Journey to Finding One's Self

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A new memoirs detailing the triumphs and tragedies associated with learning about one's sexual self, Sexography by Carly Milne opens a new door of discussion about surviving sexual traumas with honesty, wit and hope.

Sex may sell, but getting women to talk about it from the heart without theatrics and jokes isn't always the easiest task...and it's not hard to understand why. Women are plagued with issues about sex from birth, sometimes causing them to act out, other times creating feelings of shame and guilt -- and that's not even counting those who have suffered from various forms of abuse. One unique book seeks to change all that by ushering in a new era of intimately honest communication designed to deconstruct female sexuality. That book is Sexography, written by Carly Milne.

By turns serious and playful, Sexography maps the coming of age, tragedy and rebirth of one woman's sexual self. From "making out" with imaginary Hollywood stars in her closet (and getting busted) to coming to terms with abuse, assault and rape; from embracing her curiosity enough to become a sex toy tester to accepting and dealing with her tumultuous past, Milne paints a brutally honest -- and, at times, amusing -- picture of what it's like to learn about and experience sex in every sense of the word.

"At times my path has been dark, but what helped me through it was dealing with it creatively," Milne says. "I've seen and done some off-the-wall stuff to help me heal, like openly blogging about intimate details of my sex life, publicly experimenting or working as a publicist in the porn industry. And I'm not saying everyone needs to do what I did, but maybe what I went through can help others find their own path."

Milne's story begins in her childhood homes of Edmonton and Calgary, Alberta, Canada, where she began her journey with the typical kind of curiosity that all children have, doing things like examining her Barbies for some hint of genitalia. But soon she found herself faced with sexual abuse at the hands of trusted adults, which is where her story takes readers on a wild, amazing and sometimes painful trip that spans both Canada and the U.S.

Milne vividly recounts first kisses and first loves amid brewing trauma, sharing the inner workings of her mind as she finds the strength to battle through events that threaten to tear her apart. After discovering her likes and dislikes, marrying and divorcing, and finding a caring support group, Milne finds the courage to heal herself once and for all.

In an effort to further open the channels of communication about these issues, Milne has partnered with RAINN -- the Rape and Incest National Network -- for various fundraising events surrounding the book's release. Says Milne, "Working with RAINN is an honor. Part of the reason why I wrote the book is because I wanted to help other women who have suffered through similar experiences, giving them the change to find a voice and regain their strength. Being able to do that is worth everything I went through."

Whether you've been through similar experiences or just know someone who has, Sexography will change your mind about why and how survivors survive.

About Carly Milne:
Carly Milne has written for Glamour, Variety, Maxim, Stuff, Bitch Magazine, Whole Life Times, AOL and more. She has also been interviewed by Marie Claire, Entertainment Weekly, Cosmopolitan, Sex TV and E!, among many others, and has been published in several books. This is her first full-length non-fiction work. Read more about her online at

For more information on Sexography, please contact:
CJ Bergthorsen, Type A Public Relations


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