People love to take part in activities during the holidays, whether it be caroling, arts and crafts, or charity functions. If you take part and are active in these types of events, this is a great way to meet people.
West Hollywood, CA (PRWEB) December 19, 2007
Single people have one thing in common - they are always on the look-out for a potential "soul mate" to help make their lives complete.
But this is especially true of the Christmas holiday season.
Dating advice expert Joseph Matthews says, "When the weather turns cold and people begin to spend more time indoors, loneliness can really begin to settle in. And then, as the holidays roll around, and our thoughts turn to family, and we see our friends and loved ones come together with their spouses, the fact that you're not in a relationship can become painfully clear."
Joseph Matthews, author of the book The Art Of Approaching, specializes in teaching men how to meet the women of their dreams - even during the holidays.
"The holiday season may seem like an odd time to try and meet someone special, due to people traveling away from home and not having time to date," explains Matthews. "But it can actually be a great time to start laying the groundwork for future relationships. After all, women will be feeling lonely this time of year too, and will be more open than usual to meeting someone new."
So how can a man go about finding women during the holidays? Here are the top 5 things men can do to make sure they have a date by New Years.
1. Be A Friendly Flyer
If you have to fly at all during the holidays, take advantage of it as an opportunity to meet women. "Air travel has become such a chore," explains Matthews. "You have to get to the airport early, you stand in lines a lot, and you sit around waiting for your plane to board. What most guys fail to realize is that when you have a lot of people waiting around, that's the perfect time to be social."
"Every time you see a woman waiting for the same flight as you, take the time to start up a conversation with her. Most people are receptive to distractions to take away from the boredom of waiting for their flight to board and will be happy to pass the time talking to someone."
"Not only that, but chances are if they're flying out of the same city, the two of you could hook up after you return from the holidays. And if you're traveling to the same destination, you could also meet up during the holidays."
2. Last Minute Shopping Is Better Than A Bar Or Club
Forget about having to go out to the club scene to meet women, Matthews says that the malls are where all the action is at during Christmas.
"Christmas is the biggest retail season of the year," says Matthews. "And people will always be running around trying to get their Christmas shopping done at the last minute. Just go to any mall or shopping center during the holidays, and you'll find it packed to the brim with women trying to finish buying their gifts."
"Find your nearest Mall, do some last minute shopping, but while you're there, be sure to approach as many women as you can. If you can't walk away from a mall during the holidays with at least five numbers, you're doing something wrong."
3. Online Shopping Isn't Just For Buying Gifts
During Christmas, lots of people do their shopping on the internet. According to Matthews, this is the perfect time to try online dating.
"When people hop online to shop for Christmas gifts, that means they'll probably hop online while they're at home to help pass the time - and if they're feeling lonely, they'll usually take up internet dating by going to an online personals site."
Matthews continues, "There are a great deal of free online dating sites, but people are also in the mood to spend money during Christmas, so a lot of the paid dating services online will get lots of people signing up for them. So while you're at home with the family, that's the perfect time to hit the internet and start connecting with people through the online dating sites."
When asked what sites he would recommend people try during the holidays, Matthews responded - "For free dating, you can't beat social network sites like MySpace and Facebook. People will spend lots of time on these sites connecting with their friends while they're at home and bored. But if you're looking for serious prospects, you'll want to go for paid sites like Match.com, Yahoo Personals, or eHarmony."
"Take some time to create a profile, browse for people in your local area, and start contacting them," says Matthews. "By the time you get back home from the holidays, you'll be ready to start lining up dates."
4. Exploit Family Hook-Ups
"If there's one thing you can usually count on," says Matthews, "it's that your family knows a lot of great prospects for dating."
"I have yet to meet a mother who isn't willing to play matchmaker for her son. It might seem awkward, but take advantage of this. Let your mother, sisters, cousins, sister-in-laws - pretty much any woman in your family - know that you're looking to meet a great girl and would appreciate any help they could provide."
"Lots of men are embarrassed to do this, but you'd be surprised at the results. The women your family has access to can be of incredibly high quality, and it makes the whole process of meeting new girls much easier."
5. Partake In Holiday Activities
Finally, Matthews points out that taking part in holiday activities can really open up the doors to meeting new people.
"People love to take part in activities during the holidays, whether it be caroling, arts and crafts, or charity functions. If you take part and are active in these types of events, this is a great way to meet people."
"One year I volunteered for an organization that raised money to help homeless children, and I would wrap gifts at a local Borders Books in exchange for money for the charity," explains Matthews. "I can't tell you how many women I met through that type of volunteer work. And it was easy to meet them, because they'd come up to me and wait there as I wrapped their gifts. Not only was I helping a good cause, I was also helping myself meet some fantastic people."
If you feel you need more help meeting women, Joseph Matthew's book The Art Of Approaching (artofapproaching.com) is a must read. Be sure to check it out. It could be the best gift you give yourself this holiday season.