Choosing to be Childless: How to Get Over the Guilt of Other People's Expectations, According to Hale Dwoskin, Featured Teacher of the Blockbuster Book and Movie 'The Secret'

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Hale Dwoskin, featured teacher of the blockbuster book and movie "The Secret" and CEO of Sedona Training Associates, announces how people who choose to be childless can get over the guilt and other negative emotions that often accompany their choice.

Hale Dwoskin, founder of The Sedona Method and a featured teacher in the #1 blockbuster bestselling book and movie, "The Secret," announces how people who choose to be childless can get over the guilt and other negative emotions that often accompany their decision.

Increasing numbers of American women are choosing not to have children -- a decision that often brings up questions and sometimes unfair judgment from friends and family members. Yet, as more and more women enter the workforce and focus their lives on various pursuits, raising children is not always a part of the plan.

In fact, according to The Social Health of Marriage in America from Rutgers University, in 2004 (the latest year for which figures are available) one out of five women in their early 40s was childless, compared to just one out of 10 in 1976. Meanwhile, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, in 2004 44 percent of American women of childbearing ages were childless, compared to 35 percent in 1976.

Yet, despite the many advances that have been made in terms of women's "traditional" roles in society, many couples who say they are choosing to be childless are met with resistance from their social circles, especially when it comes to family.

Parents, for instance, may be depending on their kids for grandchildren. Or friends may tell the childless couple or individual of all the joy they will miss out on. Ultimately, of course, the decision to have children, or not to, is completely a personal choice, and no amount of guilt should occur for whatever choice is made.

Of course, saying that and doing it are two different things.

It's worth mentioning that while children are often thought of as joyful, studies have actually shown that childless families are happiest. And in a way, it makes sense. There is less stress about money, fewer demands to take up time, and more freedom to do as one pleases. So people may want to keep that fact in the back of their mind the next time someone tells them what they should be doing with their life.

Ultimately, though, individuals don't owe anyone any explanations. Instead, they should focus on letting go of any guilt.

"First off remember that it is your body and your decision -- not theirs. We often forget that when we are feeling guilt," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. "Then allow yourself to release the guilt by either letting go of wanting to be punished for not having children or simply choosing to let go of the feeling directly."

The Sedona Method is an excellent tool to help people in the process of this releasing. It will show people how to tap into their inner ability to release the negative feelings associated with guilt, allowing them to drop it like they would a tennis ball. It really is that simple once people learn the power of letting go through The Sedona Method.

So whether people are feeling guilty about letting their parents down, guilty about their desire to live life without children, or guilty because they are "different" than other couples, it doesn't matter. With The Sedona Method, anyone can free themselves from any one of these self-sabotaging, and unnecessary, feelings.

"When you release, you take control of your body back from others and you can feel comfortable with whatever it is that you choose," Dwoskin says.

Right now everyone can get the free Insiders Guide to The Sedona Method email course sampler by inputting just their name and email in the sidebar on the right at .

For more insights on the topic of releasing, Hale Dwoskin, New York Times Best-Selling author of The Sedona Method, featured expert in the film and New York Times bestseller "The Secret," and CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates, is available for interviews. Sedona Training Associates is an organization that teaches courses based on the emotional releasing techniques originated by Hale Dwoskin's mentor, Lester Levenson. Dwoskin is an international speaker and featured faculty member at Esalen and the Omega Institute. For over a quarter century, he has regularly been teaching The Sedona Method techniques to individuals and corporations throughout the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. Visit


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