Sedona, AZ (PRWEB) May 9, 2008
Hale Dwoskin, founder of The Sedona Method and a featured teacher in the #1 blockbuster bestselling book and movie, "The Secret," announces how people can argue effectively and constructively -- without having an ego battle or feeling stressed and drained.
Every argument -- when two people are trying to come to a rational resolution about a conflict -- has the potential to strengthen or weaken the relationship. Ideally, the disagreement should focus on the objective -- reaching a solution -- and not be centered on "being right."
Often what happens, however, is that arguing plays to the egoist in all of us. And when the ego gets involved, people are no longer simply having a conversation, they are strangling it.
"An argument is when a discussion about opposing points of view becomes heated and we dig in and try to defend, justify or protect our point of view," says Hale Dwoskin.
It is next to impossible to get anywhere during this type of ego battle because both parties are in a state of "one-upmanship" -- and feel that they must get the other person to see things their way.
"When you are defending any point of view you have become identified with it and therefore believe you are actually defending yourself, not your point of view," Dwoskin says.
The key to arguing in a constructive manner is to simply get over the ego. But is this really simple? How?
"The simplest way to break free of any particular argument and to break the tendency to argue is to let go of wanting to defend, justify, explain or prove your point of view -- and to be as open as you can to the other person's point of view," Dwoskin says.
When people let go of fighting for their point of view, there is no longer a need to prove anything. The anger or urgent need to be right that was once felt so keenly will actually disappear, and the mind will become free to focus on finding solutions.
Further, as one practices empathizing with another's point of view, thy will break down the wall that has been built up between them. Ultimately, people will see that it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, only that they can communicate openly together.
All of these things are easily attainable when people use The Sedona Method. This tool has helped hundreds of thousands of people to improve their lives, including strengthening, and repairing, their relationships.
Said one Sedona Method graduate, Judith Halderman from St. Louis, MO, "My relationship with my husband is deeper, freer, and more joyful and playful. In general, life is so much easier!"
This is because letting go of arguing for one's point of view will take a weight off of their shoulders, and off of their relationship.
"Letting go is very liberating, life-affirming and relationship-saving if you allow yourself to do it," Dwoskin says. "It will help you to be a lot happier with yourself and with others."
Right now everyone can get the free Insiders Guide to The Sedona Method email course sampler by inputting just their name and email in the sidebar on the right at http://www.sedona.com/argueeffectively.aspx .
For more insights on the topic of releasing, Hale Dwoskin, New York Times Best-Selling author of The Sedona Method, featured expert in the film and New York Times bestseller "The Secret," and CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates, is available for interviews. Sedona Training Associates is an organization that teaches courses based on the emotional releasing techniques originated by Hale Dwoskin's mentor, Lester Levenson. Dwoskin is an international speaker and featured faculty member at Esalen and the Omega Institute. For over a quarter century, he has regularly been teaching The Sedona Method techniques to individuals and corporations throughout the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. Visit http://www.Sedona.com .