Expert Says New Movie Implies Intimacy That's Not Happening

Sex expert and registered nurse, Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN, author of "Please Dear, Not Tonight: The Truth About Women and Sex" explains how America may think that "Sex and the City" is real life representation of what's going on in bedrooms all over the US, but why it's so not the case.

Denver, CO (PRWEB) May 19, 2008 -- The new "Sex and the City" movie is due out this month, which begs the question … How much (good) sex really is there in the city? Or the suburbs? Or even the country, for that matter. Truthfully, whether you're single, newlywed, or you've been in bed with the same mate for years, many folks complain that what's too often out there is …

Women with all "those" headaches saying, "Please Dear, not tonight."

Men cheating by the carload … just watch the news for your favorite politician or celebrity who gets caught with his pants down next.

A whole lot of myths and miscommunication about sex.

The bottom line: Frustrated partners on both sides wondering if the Sex and the City depiction of lovemaking is real or just going on in everyone else's bedroom, just not their own.

So what's behind the problem? According to Mary Jo Fay, registered nurse, sex and relationship expert, and the author of "Please Dear, Not Tonight: The Truth About Women and Sex," there's a lot of bad sex out there, despite what the steamy gals from "Sex and the City" play to the contrary. Fay says that the problems begin with the fact that most of us learned all we know about sex in the 7th grade locker room, and later on from porn sites - neither of which is helping bed partners accurately communicate with each other about what they want, need, and require to keep an intimate relationship, well … intimate.

Then there are things like:

1.The top three reasons women say, "Please Dear, not tonight."

2.The things women do to cause their men to cheat.

3.Why sex for women is so much harder than it is for men. (Hint: Men need a place … women need a reason! You've simply got to get their brains on board first.)

4.The quirky story about how vibrators were originally invented to regularly "treat" women for a medical diagnosis known as "Hysteria." (Almost too unbelievable to be true. And you can be sure there was a male doctor behind it.)

5.Why the pharmaceutical world can't seem to come up with a female Viagra after years of trying. (And why, if they don't keep one key point in mind, it won't matter if it's invented anyway - it simply won't work.)

6.Why Freud was completely wrong about women and sex, much less "penis envy." (Most women don't want one … they just want to borrow one from time to time)

Fay believes that until we get more open and honest about our sexual education information, and communications with our intimate partners, many of these phenomenon will only continue to lead to ongoing frustrations in the bedroom. And of course, an ever-increasing divorce rate.

As a result she's about to launch a new program for men to help them better understand the woman in their bed. "The Top Secret Men's Program - How To Get More Sex From Your Mate" is designed to help men at least understand the sexual intricacies of women and will be in a tele-seminar format so that no men have to show up to a workshop and admit to anyone else that they may be a bit "less than stellar" in the bedroom. Her first workshop is this week in Denver and is totally Top Secret except to special candidates who agreed to test pilot the program.

"Men are hungry for information," says Fay. "They really do want to please their mate but don't always know how. With my nursing hat on, comfort with the human body, and female perspective we'll discuss all these issues in depth and with no one taking off their clothes. I think this is a huge need that has yet to be met for guys who truly love their mates and want to keep their sex lives strong and healthy."

For more information on this topic, or for interview possibilities just in time for the release of the new "Sex and the City /;stories, contact Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN. She is a talented regular on TV and radio. For more info, sample interview questions, and to view some of her TV clips stop by her web site, and specifically the media page. Mary Jo Fay lives in Denver and is willing to travel for interviews, even on short notice. She can be reached on her cell at 303-841-7691.

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