Royal Oak, MI (PRWEB) February 6, 2009
It's no shock to hear that women are angry with their husbands, but a new study of 1000 mothers by Parenting Magazine highlights the severity of the problem. Almost half of the mothers surveyed were angry at their husbands on a regular basis, and the effects were worse for couples with infants, or with three or more children. Moms are furious because husbands ignore household chores, can't multitask, and take ample time for themselves - while the mothers work around the clock.
This seething anger can lead to serious problems for couples. Unexpressed anger creates a barrier to companionship and intimacy, and can impact physical health in a number of significant ways. Dr. Redford Williams, director of the Behavioral Medicine Research Center at Duke University, says "Anger can damage your heart, and has been found in epidemiological studies to identify people who are more likely to have a heart attack or drop dead from any cause."
Moreover, unresolved anger can lead to more violence among couples, especially during times of economic stress, such as we are now experiencing. Calls to the National Domestic Violence Hotline have shot up during the recession, says spokeswoman Retha Fielding. For example, there were 21% more calls in September 2008 than in September 2007. When the stock market plunged in October 2008, there were 18% more calls than in October 2007.
Relationship Institute of Royal Oak, Michigan, a leading psycho-educational service organization for 17 years, helps couples learn to communicate constructively about their resentments, and resolve past hurts that can lead to ugly blowups.
"We've seen hundreds of couples come into our office with smoke coming out of their ears," says Shirley Bavonese, ACSW, Co-Director of the Relationship Institute with Psychologist husband Joe. "They just don't have the tools to manage it effectively, and they end up avoiding each other or having screaming matches when forced to discuss an issue. Our culture does a poor job of preparing us for intimate relationships. The role models in the media are either sensationalistic drama queens or sappy couples who never argue. The good news, though, is that just as with any other skill, couples can learn how to communicate more effectively if they are motivated to do so."
Relationship Institute offers individual and couples counseling, and this Valentine's Day is offering a special workshop for couples based on the internationally renowned PAIRS couples-enrichment program, entitled Passage to Intimacy. The workshop emphasizes learning how to communicate in a safe way about any issue causing hurt, annoyance or frustration, and how to re-romanticize a relationship that may have gotten stale.
For details on the workshop go to:
To contact Joe Bavonese, PhD or Shirley Bavonese, ACSW please call 248 546 0407.