Aurora, OR (PRWEB) December 10, 2009
It appears that Tiger Woods was not only unfaithful, according to seven-- and still counting-- women who have come forth with lurid details, alleged pictures, and copies of sex texts all from trysts between Woods and mostly younger women in the food service industry.
When is it an affair, and when is it a sexual addiction? Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of Adultery, the Forgivable Sin and Make Up Don't Break Up, says that infidelity falls into the category of addiction when there is a repetitive pattern. "A man has an affair to feel good, the feeling is temporary, and he goes back for more. When he is risking his reputation, career and marriage, the thought process is not logical or prudent."
"The more powerful a person feels in their job, the higher the stress. Adultery provides a biochemical craving for connection, along with the high and thrill of a new romance. These high- risk behaviors are addictive. What begins with a desire to relieve stress or mute depression easily progresses to a preoccupation with where their next "fix' will come from, and often involves a strong desire to create rituals around obtaining the "high." This preoccupation becomes a compulsion--to use drugs, alcohol, or to have sex, followed by depression and despair as the effects wear off, leading to the start of the cycle all over again," explains Dr. Weil. Getting caught in the loop of the compulsion usually ends when they get caught.
This pattern seems to fit the reports about Tiger Wood's alleged infidelity. As with all addictions that spin out of control, Woods now appears remorseful, apologetic (on his website) about his "transgressions," and making efforts to repair his business and personal reputation.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, an internationally acclaimed couples, children and family therapist, was named by Psychology Today as one of America's best therapists. New York Magazine recognizes Dr. Bonnie as one of the city's best therapists.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on Oprah five times, was the featured guest in a three day series on the The Today show, and has been a guest on Fox, O'Reilly Report, CNN, 20/20, The View, Good Morning America, CBS Health Watch, CBS, ABC, NBC, Better TV, and Fox News.
Dr. Bonnie is a regular contributor as the relationship expert in Ladies Home Journal and was featured in the "Can This Marriage Be Saved" column three consecutive months. Her work has appeared in Redbook, Good Housekeeping, Men's Health, the New York Magazine. Parenting