Women Who are Thinking About Divorce: What They Need to Know

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An expert's advice on what women should know about the financial aspects of divorce

Some say the recession and the bad economy is causing fewer divorces. That may be true, but there are still those they are involved in the process right now. According to Margery Rubin, a noted divorce coach and author of the book “What Your Divorce Lawyer May Not Tell You…the125 Questions Every Women Should Ask,” published by Fireside Book, a division of Simon & Schuster, nearly 70% of divorces in the United States are initiated by women each year.

These women have come to terms with their failed marriages and have taken action. They have the need to seek ways to navigate the many challenges posed by the different stages of the divorce process—from how to choose advocates and save on legal expenses to how to break through stalemates. Ms. Rubin offers some helpful advice on how to make the process less costly and more efficient.

Assess Your Marriage: For those deciding if divorce is inevitable, take a good look at your marriage by writing a mini biography. This will help you come to terms with your decision and create some clarity on the circumstances in your life. Begin with how you met, the courtship, the important and happy events along with the conflicts that have occurred.

Organize: Living by this philosophy during the daunting divorce process will help save money in expensive legal fees and help safeguard your future. Create a paper trail, get documents in order, know your finances, use your personal detective skills, copy receipts and note expenses. Make copies of financial papers from the taxes to the bank statements to the credit card bills. Prepare a budget showing the family’s monthly expenses. Preparation is your protection.

Get to the Point: When a three-minute conversation with your attorney can cost $21 (if your lawyer charges $210/hr), make every minute count. Organize questions beforehand, get documents in order, don’t spend time complaining about your spouse.

Confront Parenting Issues: For those individuals using the children as a weapon against one another, a parenting coordinator (a therapist used to dealing with children and parents) can break through these conflicts and help make child-centered decisions. Your lawyer is not an expert on child rearing.

Investigate Mediation: Learn how this method can save money and promote less stress on all parties involved while achieving an amicable solution.

Margery Rubin has helped to empower women with information about the practical matters of divorce through her Company, DivorceSource, located in New York City. Her book discusses the questions on the minds of divorcing women, providing concise, no-nonsense guidance from her one-on-one private consultations. She was inspired to create her business as a result of her own divorce from one of the country’s most prominent matrimonial attorneys.

For further information consult Web Site: http://www.mydivorcesource.com

Email: divorcesource(at)aol(dot)com

Phone: Margery Rubin 212-725-3630


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