New York, NY (PRWEB) July 26, 2010
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, relationship expert warns couples of the signs of abusive behavior. Released tapes by radaronline.com (radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/07/exclusive-new-audio-mel-gibsons-twisted-rant) about the Mel Gibson and Oksana Grigorieva saga portray an angry, volatile and verbally abusive man. Although the stories of abuse between the celebrity couple are allegations at this time, and the released audio tapes by radaronline are under investigation, Dr. Bonnie wants people to be aware of abusive dynamics. The recorded cell phone conversations portray classic signs of escalating violence. “Individuals in relationships need to know the signs of escalating abuse, and get out before it is too late. Addictive behavior combined with escalating threats is a recipe for domestic disaster," reminds Dr. Bonnie.
“I want to make clear that if abuse in a relationship escalates, or there are uncontrolled substance issues, a partner must seek safety, even if it means leaving. Addictions cause impulsive decisions and behavior caused by a biochemical imbalance addicts suffers from,” explains Dr. Bonnie. While this knowledge can make a partner sympathetic, he or she must also be on guard for danger.
Domestic conflicts are more disturbing when children are involved. Gibson and Grigorieva have a biological child together, and she has a child from another relationship. Dr. Bonnie warns that if there are children subjected to emotional and/or physical abuse, the victims must get out immediately.
Money also apparently plays a role in this drama according to a report by TMZ.com filed on the TMZ blog site Monday July 19, 2010. The report states that allegedly Mel Gibson’s baby’s mother turned down an offer of $15 million to keep his taped rants out of the media spotlight. As Dr. Bonnie writes in her book Financial Infidelity, partners will resort to using money--a destructive and often last ditch effort to gain power, control and lash out against perceived unmet needs.
While the verdict on the alleged crimes involved in this relationship are left to lawyers and courts to sort out, the dramatic accusations are a reminder to all couples to set up healthy boundaries, get out if the children are subjected to emotional or physical abuse, and leave at the first hint of escalating abuse.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, an internationally acclaimed couples, children and family therapist, was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists. New York Magazine recognizes Dr. Bonnie as one of the city’s best therapists. Dr. Bonnie is the author of Financial Infidelity, Make Up Don’t Break UP and Adultery The Forgivable Sin.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, holds a PhD in family play therapy which is a technique and treatment she developed which was written up for her thesis and put in a colleagues book. She was also asked by Hunters school of social work to teach family play therapy, and worked as a child therapist at Long Beach Mental Health clinic treating children and teens both separate and with parents. She has been written up in NY Post, Daily News, Toronto Sun, USA Today and Ladies Home Journal on children, teens and parents. She has also been featured in Parenting magazine and on their website.