Have you ever sacrificed your own happiness trying to make someone else happy?
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) September 15, 2010
Expert and relationship guru Kristen Houghton tackles the subject of 'happiness' in her latest release, "And THEN I'll Be Happy". In a beguiling blend of practical advice and humor,Kristen debunks the myths about how and when women find happiness. She presents true stories of women who put their happiness on hold for different reasons, provides tips on what readers can do to avoid similar problems, and identifies the major mindsets that keep women from achieving happiness.
Within the pages of "And Then I’ll Be Happy!", the former saboteur of her own happiness, gives women the tools they need to shake off the unhappiness epidemic. With this book, women everywhere—whether in the midst of their careers, choosing to be stay-at-home moms, or caring for aging parents—can put their happiness right where it belongs: in the present. You’ve done it again. You sacrificed your own happiness trying to make someone else happy. You assigned your happiness, one more time, to some future date, “in a galaxy far, far away.” Hey, it’s no big deal, your happiness can wait. After all, you have to make sure everyone else in your life is happy before you even can consider being so! Only good little girls who sacrifice their lives for every single person in their small universe are allowed to be happy, right?
It is also possible that you may be a “settler”—a woman who feels she may never get what she wants and so sabotages her chances for happiness by settling for less than she should have. It is unfortunately too common a practice for women. You may settle for less of a relationship, less of a career, less of a home, all because you feel that what you really want is way out of your range. In settling you undermine your prospects for happiness and become another woman who thinks that she will be happy sometime, somehow in the future. Some women settle for marriage and motherhood because they’re told that this is what they should want. But not all women are cut out to be wives and mothers. Settling for what others tell you that you should have shortchanges your own life’s value…
You are the “unworthy one,” a woman who never feels she deserves to be happy until she has met the criteria for success. Unfortunately those criteria are usually conceived and written by someone else who really knows nothing at all about you. You are being duped. The biggest problem is that, whether you are the good girl or the unworthy one, you keep sabotaging your chances for happiness all by yourself with no help from anyone else. And then you wonder why you’re never happy!”
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