Champaign, IL (PRWEB) October 25, 2010
A new book, What Makes Men Emotionally Available: Understanding Why Men Do And Don't Want Open Up And Get Involved, by Andrew Dolan, is available on Amazon.com
Women often complain that grown men act like little boys who can't handle mature relationships, but fail to understand the factors that can keep men immature and emotionally unavailable well into adulthood. Emotional availability is a byproduct of being a psychological adult. This requires men to learn how to behave in multiple social roles such as employee, neighbor, father, lover and other roles as they mature, including the particular social role that involves men learning the emotionally expressive behavior that is necessary to interact with women in an adult manner. Some men learn, others do not.
Men who are not psychological adults resist learning how to behave in multiple social roles, including when they interact with women. They instead deliberately limit themselves to some single nonadult social role - such as gang member, workaholic, or drinking buddy - on all public and private occasions, including when they interact with women. These self-defined single social roles become the templates for all parts of their nonadult lives, such as the case of a gang member who always acts out his unemotional tough-guy single social role in every area of life. Such men have one-track minds that block them from learning how to take on any other social roles, so they resist learning how to behave with women in an adult manner. One-role men are not psychological adults, and are bad bets for adult relationships and emotional availability.
Male peer groups and workplace social roles can contribute to making men emotionally unavailable. The social role that men take on in male peer groups such as gangs often involves pressuring members to conform to group behavior expectations by keeping their relationships with women on the superficial or adolescent level. Another example is the workaholic who keeps his relationships with women on the superficial level in order to subordinate his relationships to his all-encompassing self-defined social role of workaholic. This book shows women how to readily distinguish between emotionally available and unavailable men, and includes social science research references.
What Makes Men Emotionally Available: Understanding Why Men Do And Don't Want Open Up And Get Involved, by Andrew Dolan, is available on Amazon.com and from the publisher, CreateSpace.com, 220 pages, $14.95, trade paperback original, ISBN: 1453788956, ISBN-13/EAN: 9781453788950. Createspace is part of the Amazon.com group of companies.
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