Seeing your family will more than likely dredge up some old painful thoughts and feelings. The best way to deal with these feelings is to accept them.
Oakland, CA (PRWEB) November 20, 2010
It’s that time of year again. Planning holiday menus, attending the round of office Christmas parties and hosting family from out of town can increase anyone’s anxiety level. But life coach and stress management expert Dr. Richard Blonna says it doesn’t have to be that way.
Blonna, author of "Stress Less, Live More", says that the source of a lot of holiday stress occurs when family values collide with each other. “For example, you might value sharing simple, meaningful yet inexpensive gifts but your siblings like to buy expensive, trendy gifts for you and your children.”
Blonna says that they are five simple strategies that will reduce most holiday stress right off the bat:
1. Make a list of what you value about the holidays before making any plans. When you are done rank your holiday values from most to least important.
2. Set reasonable goals for your top three your values. It is better to break goals down into smaller objectives that answer the question; "Who will do how much of what by when?" This will make it easier to meet your values-based holiday goals.
3. Be willing to accept the pain that accompanies the joy associated with the holidays. Seeing your family will more than likely dredge up some old painful thoughts and feelings. The best way to deal with these feelings is to accept them. Tell yourself: “I am willing to co-exist with these painful thoughts and feelings in order to accomplish my holiday value.
4. Work in some daily physical activity or exercise. The stress response mobilizes energy and creates muscle tension. If you don't dissipate this through physical activity it has nowhere to go and can cause irritability, insomnia, fatigue, and muscle pain.
5. Remember to take a few good breaths several times a day. Every day take a few moments to calm yourself by becoming more mindful of the present moment by taking deep, calming breaths.
The holidays will always be stressful, but Blonna says his strategies will help you to focus on what matters most to you.
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