Long Term Marriages At Risk For Boredom

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil warns couples that without continued shared activities that include passion, enthusiasm and novelty, their marriage is at risk for infidelity. Many are not cheating with younger or more beautiful, often the partner finds someone with a mutual vision, creative outlet, or life long mission.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Phd, author of Make Up Don’t Break Up sees a common thread among long term marriages breaking up. Musician John Mellencamp recently split with his 41 year old wife and is reportedly seeing 49 year old Meg Ryan, with whom he has had a friendship and professional relationship. When Al Gore and Tipper split after a 40 year marriage, there were tabloid allegations about a relationship between Gore and Laurie David, the co producer of the Oscar winning documentary An Inconvenient Truth, featuring Gore and his global warming education campaign.

In a 2009 report in the journal of Psychological Science, couples involved in interesting and passionate experiences together were less likely to report boredom, and more likely to feel closer. (http://pss.sagepub.com/content/20/5/543).

“These men are not going for the stereoptypical younger version of their wives. They are finding women who share a vision, passion, and creative pursuit. This is a warning to all couples in long term relationships. Couples must share hobbies or pursuits that offer anticipation, novelty, excitement, passion and enthusiasm,” warns Dr. Bonnie. “Sharing a partner’s passion creates a deeper bond, and gives couples a shared purpose.”

“The longer couples stay together, it is imperative that they continue seeking shared and meaningful experiences,” says Dr. Weil.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN.

For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden(at)centurytel(dot)net


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