A Break Up Doesn't Always Mean the End

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Phd recommends that couples breaking up should take their time before jumping into another relationship. Sometimes a break up is merely a time out, and a "brush with death" effort to rekindle and recommit to the relationship.

Dr. Bonnie teaches couples the traps of relationship triangles, and the vulnerability of newly divorcing couples. As a recent example, Scarlett Johansson and Ryan Reynolds recently split up after a two-year marriage. Sandra Bullock, who starred with Reynolds in The Proposal—a bed romping relationship movie, is now allegedly in a romantic tryst with the handsome hunk. Apparently news (http://www.hollywoodlife.com/2010/12/21/ryan-reynolds-scarlett-johansson-sandra-bullock-proposal/) magazines are reporting that Scarlett is upset over Reynolds and Bullock’s friendship turning romantic.

“When couples split, they feel vulnerable, and it is common for each partner to look for comfort. Both parties are grieving, but when one person makes public knowledge of a new paramour, it can be devastating,” explains Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil.

After a break up, someone may harbor a secret desire to patch things up. In Dr. Bonnie’s book Make Up Don’t Break Up, the author describes a common break-up-to-make-up scenario. “Sometimes a partner may be practicing what I call a 'Brush with Death' exercise where they break up to wake their partner up in order to get them to recommit to the relationship. If the exercise fails the hopeful partner can become distraught.”

It is unknown whether Scarlett or Ryan were holding out hope for reconciliation, but either one engaging in an affair reduces the chances for the couple reuniting.

Dr. Bonnie gives couples helpful communication and relationship tools in her book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love, and through her therapy practice.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356.

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