New York, NY (PRWEB) January 16, 2011
Imago relationship therapist Wendy Patterson, unlocks the mystery of why couples break up after years of marriage, and heeds a warning. “The study on long term relationships recently featured in a New York Times Article (http://pss.sagepub.com/content/20/5/543) dispels the myth that couples break up because of boredom in the bedroom. The number one sensation people want is to feel alive through shared ideals or experiences. Singer John Mellencamp leaving his 41 year-old model wife and starting a relationship with an older Meg Ryan with whom he shares creative projects is a perfect example,” says Patterson.
“Sharing an interesting, intellectual or creative pursuit with someone other than their partner may lead one to conclude: ‘I feel more alive with her/him than you.’ Experiencing something that gives two people a connection and a shared passion is very powerful and seductive,” explains Patterson.
While couples in long- term marriages share a common history, they also need to share enthusiasm for the endeavors, passions, and interests that inspire them today, and not fall into the trap of thinking that their shared history will be the glue that keeps them together.
“During periods of personal transition, it is key that individuals in a relationship feel as though their partner sees them as the new person they are becoming,” Patterson advises. Individuals must be good at paying attention to how their partner is changing, and relate to their new attitudes, beliefs, hopes, and dreams—or they are at risk for losing the intimate connection everyone wants from relationships.
The Na’vi greeting in the movie Avatar, demonstrates this sentiment in their eye locked greetings: “I see you.” People want to know that their partner “sees” them intimately.
Imago Relationships International helps couples restore connection. Weekend couples workshops are available worldwide. Imago has Certified over 2,000 couples therapists to guide couples through a process which was developed by co-founders Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD. Imago first came to public attention through the New York Times best seller, "Getting the Love You Want". Oprah Winfrey dubbed Hendrix "The Marriage Whisperer". Calling him "Her favorite therapist" Oprah has invited him on her show 17 times. Couples can start learning how Imago creates a better relationship for free, by visiting http://www.GettingTheLoveYouWant.com for online tools and learning experiences.
Wendy Palmer Patterson, M.S.W., is a licensed clinical social worker and marriage and family therapist who leads couples relationship workshops. She is well known for her extraordinarily warm and empathetic style as a teacher and therapist. Wendy has trained with Dr. Harville Hendrix and is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, Workshop Presenter, and Clinical Instructor. Visit http://www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com for workshop dates, and therapists in your area.
# # #