This Halloween Act out Your fantasies - Healthfully!

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Halloween is a way to channel your inner control freak, your inner princess, your inner child - and that's not a bad thing, says Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil! This Halloween, use your costume to express something about yourself that you might otherwise keep pent up.

Halloween is just days away, giving everyone a way to channel their inner control freak, their inner princess, their inner child - and that's not a bad thing, says Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil! This Halloween, Dr. Bonnie suggests using a costume to express something that might otherwise be kept pent up. For example, for those who want to be in control, Dr. Bonnie suggests going as a policeman for example. For those who feel the need to stand up for yourself, consider donning a witch costume. Then pay attention to what the costure choice indicates - dress-up is a fun, safe way to act out fantasies and dreams in a way that's playful and acceptable.

"Use your costume to hone in on things that may be lacking in your life or relationship," advises Dr. Bonnie. "If you want to be a princess or a Hollywood starlet, could you use a little more glamor in your life or relationship? Costumes can be a great way to start to act out feelings that may be lurking below the surface - figure out what they are and how you can let them play out in a healthy way."

Halloween is a great place to start. Says Dr. Bonnie: "The more you play, the more you stay." In other words, couples that play together stay together. Couples can use Halloween to uncover a little bit about themselves and in the process, give their relationship a jump-start as well, and not just in the bedroom. "Beyond being an addition to your sex life, use a costume to figure out what you want to say about yourself and your life," Dr. Bonnie suggests, "then channel that discovery and new energy into your relationship. It could be something as simple as picking a nice restaurant for your next date so you can get more dolled up than usual, or it could mean re-evaluating the balance of power in your relationship so that both parties feel more in-control.

Use the costume to help discover something new, and it can fuel discovery in a relationship as well!

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. She was recently honored with the 2011 New York Award in the Therapists category by the USCA "Best of Local Business Award". She is known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a Discovery Health documentary titled "Unfaithful" and A&E on addictions. ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at

Dr. Bonnie can be reached to speak on this topic as well as other topics at short notice. She can be reached at info(at)doctorbonnie(dot)com for media and appointments or 917-538-5842


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