Therapist Welcomes Recent Stats on Decreasing U.S. Birth Rate as Indicator of Improved Parental Decision-Making

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Dr. Alan Singer welcomed last week's Pew Research Report describing "a sharp decline in fertility rates in the U.S." linked to the economic recession that began three years ago. A family/marriage therapist since 1978, Singer is pleased with the births decline in tough economic times, because it indicates that parents are more carefully deliberating their own vital family-size decision.

I’m not happy there are less babies,” insists Singer, “I am pleased that parents are making careful family-size decisions in tough economic times.

“Splendid” may seem like a strange reaction to the falling U.S. Birthrate caused by this recession, but that is precisely Dr. Alan Singer’s reaction. “I’m not happy there are less babies,” insists Singer, “I am happy that parents are making careful family size decisions in tough economic times.” Singer, author of the recently launched Creating Your Perfect Family Size often cites the Pew Research Institute Study of 2010, in which 1000 parents were asked, why they decided to have a child. One third of the parents responded, “No reason, it just happened,” which Singer said, “sends chills down his spine”. A family and marriage therapist since 1978, Singer boasts of an 80% success rate in keeping couples together.

Singer’s principal concern: “Dozens of noteworthy research studies have shown that marital satisfaction tends to decline with each child. That being the case, I don’t want couples to have children…for no reason… and without careful consideration. I believe that a whimsical approach to the crucial decision of family size has significantly contributed to the heartrending 50% divorce rate in the U.S.”

In his new book, he stresses: “Don’t be haphazard about this decision….it may very well be the most important decision you make on behalf of your family. Make your family size decision with confidence and determination!” And what does Singer recommend as the ideal family size? “I suggest to couples…as many or as few…as long as you think it through.”
Together with the number of children a couple decides to have, is the timing and spacing of children, which is very important during these rough economic times.

“Couples should not spend time contemplating the ideal number of children,” emphasizes Singer, “they should ask themselves and each other one key question: Is now the best time in our lives, from a personal, health, and marital perspective, to have a(nother) child?”

Creating Your Perfect Family Size is the only book ever written that equips couples in deciding how many children to have and the optimal spacing between children. According to Singer, “It’s a parenting book about marriage that I wrote on behalf of children…..because there is nothing a child needs more - not even a sibling - than for her parents to have a healthy stable marriage.”

Commenting on the book Stephen J. Dubner, author of Freakonomics writes, "With great wisdom, insight, and compassion, Dr. Singer has written a book that will be of great use to any parent or prospective parent."

About Dr. Alan Singer:
Singer is a Family and Marriage Therapist since 1978, an Adjunct Professor for the Rutgers Graduate School of Social Work and the Touro College School of Psychology. He is a family and parenting columnist for the Home News Tribune and blogs at
He is an expert in family-size decision making and its impact on marriage.

For related stories to this topic, Singer can discuss:
Your Marriage and Your Children: How to Assure that Both Will Thrive
Newlyweds: When is the Best Time to Start a Family?
What is the Ideal Number and Ideal Spacing of Children?

If you’d like more information or to schedule an interview with Dr. Singer, please call (732) 572-2707 or email DrAlanSinger(at)aol(dot)com.


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