"Couples these days have more options with the internet, online dating services, Facebook connecting old lovers and now Craigslist with people posting personal ads. Curiosity can quickly shift to accelerated excitement when you look up an old flame."
New York, NY (PRWEB) November 12, 2011
In regards to a recent article in NY Times discussing the double life of a husband who was having an affair with a woman he met on Craigslist http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/06/fashion/in-a-divorce-the-clicks-of-a-mouse-modern-love.html?pagewanted=all. His wife was oblivious of the fact until she was sent an anonymous email to her informing her of the husbands infidelity. It is amazing how many people do not know of their significant others promiscuous ways. In a recent survey from NCCPR, it states 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity. "Couples these days have more options with the internet, online dating services, Facebook connecting old lovers and now Craigslist with people posting personal ads. Curiosity can quickly shift to accelerated excitement when you look up an old flame and the chats turn flirty." Says Dr. Bonnie "We must counteract these tempting dalliances by revitalizing our own relationships."
Further statistics from the NCCPR show that approximately 40 million people in the United States are sexually involved over the Internet. With statistics like that its no wonder why one in five American divorces now involve Facebook, according to experts (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1334482/The-marriage-killer-One-American-divorces-involve-Facebook.html). There is no doubt that online chatting offers new temptations.
"People don’t stray in a relationship when they have enticements and unexpected surprises from their partners. "I advise couples to spend time doing challenging activities that capture the excitement of the early days in their relationships." And, don’t forget to cuddle. When you are adored, and have physical contact with your partner it increases the bonding hormone Oxytocin, turning partners away from porn, the blackberry mistress and the pitfalls of Facebook and Craigslist socializing.
In my book Make Up Don’t Break Up, winner of the 2010 New York Times Readers Choice Award for Best Relationship and Dating book, I teach couples and individuals how to find, keep, and sustain loving relationships.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the 2010 NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.
Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson) Coming Nov 2011 as eBook, Make Up Don't Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a Discovery Health documentary titled "Unfaithful" and A&E on addictions. ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.