Highland Park, New Jersey (PRWEB) November 29, 2011
A reference to “yarmulke schlumkle” from the conservative website Free Republic provoked an angry response from parenting author Dr. Alan Singer after his recent national appearance on Fox and Friends. Fox invited Singer, a family therapist, to describe his new book Creating Your Perfect Family Size, which helps couples decide how many children to have.
During the Fox segment, Singer described plentiful research indicating that marital satisfaction tends to decrease with each child and the effects are cumulative. But the conservative blogger claimed, “Hmmm…Yarmulke schlumukle, this does not sound like a conservative Jew to me. Sounds more like a subtle hint to conservative religious people—don’t have too many kids.” Singer retorted, “It’s baffling that pundits with their own agendas would try to spin my divorce-reducing agenda as a partisan issue and it is ridiculous that I’m subtly hinting anything.”
“I wonder if that blogger is even half as concerned about the impact of one million additional children each year affected by divorce, as he is about the impact of my yarmulke.” Singer stresses, “Better family size decisions will increase family well-being in the aggregate and can lower the astronomical 50% divorce rate in the United States.” “When push comes to shove,” Singer asserts, “a child needs her parents together in an intact marriage more than she needs a sibling or perhaps two.”
Based in Highland Park, New Jersey, he boasts an 80% success rate in keeping couples together. He chose to become an observant Jew in his late teens and wears a yarmulke daily. When asked if there were other yarmulke-related comments on his recent cross-country book tour, Singer recalled, “When I arrived at one small southern U.S. television station, the receptionist greeted me with….you’re Dr. Singer—you’re punctual—and you’re Jewish.” Singer simply smiled.
In the book he urges, “Don’t be haphazard about this decision….it may very well be the most important decision you make on behalf of your family. Make your family size decision with confidence and determination!” And what does Singer recommend as the perfect family size……“as many or as few…as long as you think it through.”
Together with the number of children a couple decides to have, is the timing and spacing of children, which is crucial during tough economic times. “Couples shouldn’t spend time contemplating the ideal number of children,” he emphasizes, “they should ask themselves one primary question: Is now the best time in our lives, from a personal, health, and marital perspective, to have a(nother) child?”
Creating Your Perfect Family Size is the only book ever written that equips couples in deciding how many children to have and the optimal spacing between children. Singer emphasizes, “It’s a parenting book about marriage that I wrote on behalf of children…..because there is nothing a child needs more, not even a sibling, than for her parents to have a healthy stable marriage.”
About Dr. Alan Singer:
Singer is a Family and Marriage Therapist since 1978, an Adjunct Professor in the Rutgers Graduate School of Social Work and the Touro University School of Psychology. He is a family & parenting columnist for the Home News Tribune and blogs at http://www.FamilyThinking.com He is an expert in family size decision-making and its impact on marriage.
For related stories to this topic, Singer can discuss:
Your Marriage and Your Children: How to Assure that Both Will Thrive
Newlyweds: When is the Best Time to Start a Family?
What is the Ideal Number and Ideal Spacing of Children?
To schedule an interview with Dr. Singer, please call (732) 572-2707 or email DrAlanSinger(at)aol(dot)com